The Purpose of Our Blog

The name of our blog  “Only The Ceremony” states  our focus. We will discuss a wide spectrum of topics that involve only the (wedding) ceremony. Our blog will focus on the many aspects of what is involved in creating a unique and personal wedding ceremony. We will explore ideas, rituals, prayers, readings, words, actions, colors, and flowers.  We will discuss the various roles of many the people who will help you create your wedding ceremony to make it truly yours.  All of the ideas we are sharing can add to how you are able to create a more uniqueness and personal  ceremony, all the while celebrating the tremendous love and joy you are sharing with each other, with your families and friends and with the world.

In our blog, we will be sharing with you our thoughts, feelings and experiences from what we have culled from the 1700 or so wedding we have celebrated. To date we have already identified over 180 topics to share, and with your input, that number will expand. We will be writing about planning and detailing, the wedding rehearsal, the actual celebration of the ceremony, to the final steps of the recessional that will take you down the aisle into your new life as a married coupled, plus a while lot more! We want you to have the best experience of your celebration, of your wedding, and of your love.

Charlie and Cheryl

http://www.weddingministersri.com

Why Have A Wedding Ceremony?

Why have a wedding ceremony? Great question. Why?

Humans have been creating rituals and rites celebrating major life events since the beginning of time: birth, coupling, death, sickness. These certainly are the big events of a family, a tribe or a community; major miles stones in a family’s life.

Your wedding is one of those tremendous milestones not only in your life, but in the life of both your families and the life of your communities. The love you share and which brings the two of you together, has not only transformed your lives, but has also changed the lives and histories of your families and of your communities. We do not live in a vacuum!

And so why have a wedding ceremony? Because all humans, have this inherent need to celebrate the many aspects of life: love, joy, gifted-ness, gratitude, memory, health and especially the uniqueness of your relationship.  Does the size of the ceremony matter? No. Does who attends matters? Maybe. Does your love need a ritual to set the two of you apart for each other for life? Most certainly!

So, Celebrate!

 

Now is the Time to Start Planning

Now that the holidays are over, the Superbowl is won, and the red glow of Valentine’s Day is fading, and many are now  in the place to really “buckle down”to start the planning process for “the big day”

In our blog we are going to reflect upon our experiences as wedding officiants who have celebrated about 1700 weddings ceremonies: big and small, inside and outside, in churches, at clubs, at beaches, on boats and more, mostly in Rhode Island, Cape Cod, South Coast Massachusetts, Westchester County and Long Island, NY. I mention the locations since NYC, Metro NY/NJ and RI are some of the most expensive place in the United States to have a wedding as such we have celebrated a very broad spectrum of wedding ceremonies.

We hope our experiences will benefit you in planning your big day. There is no set order to the topics we will be sharing, about, it will be more or less what the muses dictate, so enjoy.

We ask you also to bear with us and our social media foibles since we continue to be on the learning curve. So please like, share, follow, tweet, etc. etc.etc. Thanks. We also look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Charlie and Cheryl

www.weddingministersri.com

Winter Wedding Weather Warning

We were planning to write about this topic later, however, with this a holiday weekend celebrating both Valentine’s Day and President’s Day and heavy snow forecast for most of  the East Coast, we thought this would be a great time to write about this very unique winter wedding topic.

We promise you, you will never see images of what we are about to describe  in a bridal magazine. Your wedding photographer will never show you pictures of this happening. More than likely, only a few people, have seen this however, we are sure they would never forget the experience.

We are speaking about what happens when a full-length bridal gown, not protected from the snow and wet, is accidentally dragged in the slush. It is not pretty, wet, cold, muddy, slushy: not pretty. We have seen it, not pretty.

The very simple, yet somewhat odd-looking remedy, that will save the winter storm bride lots of tears is for someone to have ready an extremely large plastic garbage bag, with two holes cut in the bottom. Just before the brides leave the house or hotel for the ceremony, she steps carefully into the bag while wearing the dress. With the help of her bridal attendances, they “stuff” bride and dress into the bag, protecting the dress and the bride from the mud and slush!

We will be the first to admit that this “bride in a bag” looks a little odd, however, it certainly beats having the bottom eight inches of the dress absorbed with mud and slush!

Once at the church, reception hall, or photo studio she step out of the bag and the dress is dry waiting a little fluffing!

The bride can even wear her favorite pair of wellies! Now that’s a picture!

Charlie and Cheryl

www.weddingministersri.com

A Thought for Valentine’s Day

Love is the most powerful of all human alchemies. As wedding officiants, we are blessed with the awesome task to witness two human lives changing the course of human history. With the saying of a few words lives are forever transformed.  In the utterance of those few words, two singular orbiting galaxies melt and in their new bond heaven is redesigned, the world is recreated.

And yet, this flash is not a flash, but the result of the silent, ever gradual, metamorphosis of what it takes to grow a human. In this chemistry of time, this pregnancy of relationship, in the womb of presence, words, and emotions, hearts are healed and made whole and this love is born, only to be shared.

May your Valentine’s Day be wonderful.

Charlie and Cheryl

The Day Before Heart Day

We love ee cummings.
He is able to write a few simple familiar words and place them side-by-side
to create a window through which we see eternity.

So, on this day before “Heart Day” here are a few lines at the end of one of his poems:

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)

e. e. cummings

I carry your heart-four simple words
Plus, six more simple words: I carry it in my heart.

A powerful image that creates wet eyes!

I carry your heart.
How close, gentle, desiring, willing, present.
The lover to the beloved,
the beloved to the lover,
ONE, with no separation, no break.
Each, carrying each.

In their hearts.

Take delight in this day of days before Heart Day

Valentine’s Day and Counting

Valentine’s Day is Friday and everywhere we look this week remind us about love, and so we offer this small reflection:

Recall the lines of Elizabeth Barrett Browning:

“How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.”

And in her words that follow she calls us to the beauty and intimacy of relationship in the many moments we share with our loving companion.

And so, count the ways yourself: Your love and life with the other human who is your unique special and intimate partner sharing gifts so closely in the space of your lives and hearts together filled with gratitude, wonder, depth, silence, care, security, compassion, abundance and joy. Yes, Count the many many way!