Dust If You Must

This poem, by Rose Milligan,  may not  be a  usual reading for a wedding ceremony, but it is certainly is  a poem about life and relationships and helps place life, love and relationships all in perspective. Enjoy.

Dust if you must, but wouldn’t it be better

To paint a picture or write a letter,

Bake a cake or plant a seed;

Ponder the difference between want and need?

 

Dust if you must, but there’s not much time,

With rivers to swim and mountains to climb;

Music to hear and books to read;

Friends to cherish and life to lead.

 

Dust if you must, but the world’s out there

With the sun in your eyes, the wind in your hair;

A flutter of snow, a shower of rain.

This day will not come around again.

 

Dust if you must, but bear in mind,

Old age will come and it’s not kind.

And when you go (and go you must)

You, yourself, will make more dust.

 

Rose Milligan

 

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

What is Love- A Poem

We have the pleasure of witnessing the marriage of couples whose guest list is as small as two and as large as, well, let’s say, really big. Almost all have the beautiful and warm glowing feeling of connectedness and intimacy, warmth and tenderness. The following poem was read by one of the bride’s grown daughters during a wedding celebration where 8 family members were present. The energy of the celebration vibrated with love, healing, happiness, joy and the knowledge that this couple’s love has transformed not only themselves, but the lives of the two generations surrounding them.

What is Love- Unknown Author

Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines and romance in the movies.

We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives.

For love is the creator of our favorite memories and the foundation of our fondest dreams.

Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent, a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places.

And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy, is the greatest treasure of all – one known only by those who love.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

Hugs are Healing

For us, HUGS are HEALING. Hugs are a special place. Hugs allow for the wholeness of two hearts to grow, brought close together by desire, intent, honesty, openness and willingness, all warmed by love. Hugs allow for the healing of the whole body, mind, spirit and the history of two people. Hugs, freely given, and received, receive the universe of another into the obit of each other’s lives. Hugs are and allow for connection. Hugs say “you matter”. Safe, warm, loving hugs are healing. This poem by Shel Silverstein brings a smile to our faces each time we  hear it. May you hug or be hugged  today and win!

“Hug O War” … by Shel Silverstein

“I will not play at Tug O War

I’d rather play at Hug O War

Where everyone hugs

Instead of tugs

Where everyone giggles

And rolls on the rug.

Where everyone kisses,

And everyone grins,

And everyone cuddles,

And everyone wins.

Charlies and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

The Apache Blessing- a blessing, a reading, a prayer

We have suggested to couples many times the possible inclusion of  The Apache Blessing in their wedding ceremony. We feel this wonderful piece conveys the depth, warmth and tenderness of two hearts, lives and bodies intimately tied together. The reading states in so many ways “you are one”. We have seen longer versions of the piece, however, we feel there might be challenges to the issue of authenticity with what sounds like an attempt to somehow improve the already perfect. We feel these redactions fall short of the original. Please enjoy this reading/ blessing/ prayer  during your wedding ceremony. We are unaware if there is a specifically named author; most research identifies the writer as anonymous.

 

The Apache Blessing

Now you will feel no rain,

For each of you will be shelter to the other.

Now you will feel no cold,

For each of you will be warmth to the other.

Now there is no more loneliness,

For each of you will be companion to the other.

Now you are two bodies,

But there is only one life before you.

Go now to your dwelling place,

To enter into the days of your togetherness.

And may your days be good and long upon the earth

 

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

 

Union – A Heartfelt Essay

The essay entitled “UNION” , is a very popular choice for wedding ceremonies. The reading came to us a few years ago from one of our couples who selected to use the essay during their wedding.  Over this past weekend a wonderful couple, filled with energy and connectedness, used it during their wedding ceremony. Charlie has always found this essay deeply moving. He was so deeply moved yesterday, especially as it related to this couple, he could not  get through the reading without having a wet eye or two.  He feels the reading is a warm and intimate snapshot of what happens to two hearts coming together to become one. The author,  Robert Fulghum, is a minister in the Pacific Northwest. Robert is the author of many bestsellers.

 UNION

You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.

For after today you shall say to the world –
This is my husband. This is my wife.

 

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

 

An Uncommon Love -a poem

Last week, at Castle Hill, in Newport, RI, I had the privilege of witnessing the marriage vows of a wonderful couple who shared the following poem as one of their readings. The poem, A Uncommon Love, is a new piece to me and I thought I would share it with you for you to enjoy.

An Uncommon Love

By Terah Cox

May you have the love only two can know.

May you go where only two as one may go.

May the sun rise and set in your bonded hearts and the moon never find you too long apart.

May you cherish each other’s dreams as your own and turn stumbling blocks into steppingstones.

May you brave life’s mountains and miles together.

May there be no storm your love cannot weather.

May you be lovers and allies and friends.

May your soul’s conversation never end.

May you capture on earth what’s in heaven above.

May your hearts know the rapture of an uncommon love.

 

Charles and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

 

Love Is…

We share our planet with about 7 billion people.  Within our human community about 2.25 billion of us profess to be members of a Christian denomination. So, with that sizable statistic, it is pretty fair to say that one of the most popular readings about love is from the very famous Chapter 13 taken from Saint Paul’s First Letter to the Corinthians, the “Love is patient, Love is kind” reading. We share with you the following slight variation of that reading we have written. We eliminate the use of the word NOT with its negative implication and focus on the positive. We know the tremendous experience of love is unable to be boxed in by a few small words, however, here is an attempt to give a snapshot of some of the many, many faces, elements and experiences  of what Love Is:

Love is patient

Love is kind.

It is trusting, simple and uncomplicated.

Love is knowing when and how to be the right size

Love is respectful and unselfish.

Love understands, forgives, and celebrates justice.

Love rejoices with the truth.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com