The essay entitled “UNION” , is a very popular choice for wedding ceremonies. The reading came to us a few years ago from one of our couples who selected to use the essay during their wedding. Over this past weekend a wonderful couple, filled with energy and connectedness, used it during their wedding ceremony. Charlie has always found this essay deeply moving. He was so deeply moved yesterday, especially as it related to this couple, he could not get through the reading without having a wet eye or two. He feels the reading is a warm and intimate snapshot of what happens to two hearts coming together to become one. The author, Robert Fulghum, is a minister in the Pacific Northwest. Robert is the author of many bestsellers.
You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.
The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”
Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.
For after today you shall say to the world –
This is my husband. This is my wife.
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte