Why Your Wedding Ceremony Must Be Personal

The entire experience of your wedding day is about the two of you, your marriage and the marriage ceremony, otherwise there would be no need for all the rest of the things that go along with a wedding day. The ceremony MUST be personalized, it must reflect who you are. No two couples are alike. No two loves are alike. No two relationships are alike. Each couple is totally their own beautiful reflection of love. A ceremony is the ritual framework that attempts to articulate with words, music, colors, design, location and symbols the immense mystery of your two hearts in love.

We have been personalizing weddings ceremonies for years. We are so tremendously grateful to be able to create with a couple their ritual which best reflects their love. IMAGINE, if every wedding ceremony celebrated were the same, what a flat, one-dimensional world we would have. Life is too full, rich and abundant to have the same old, same old – Celebrate we must with creativity, color, personality, life, spirit and LOVE!

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

More Vows

We feel one of the greatest privileges and joys as a wedding officiant is to stand before a couple to witness their vows and be present to a changing moment in the history of the human race. There before us are two people, two lives, uttering a hand full of words and the lives of families and communities are forever altered. Because vows are so incredibly intimate other names are used than the couple who wrote them.

“Jason, today, i take you to be my husband for life.

I vow to help create a life that we can cherish,

inspiring your love for me and mine for you.

I give you my hand and my heart as a sanctuary of warmth and peace.

And I pledge my love, devotion, faith and honor, as I join my life to yours-

Living, learning, loving, together

As long as we both shall live”

And his:

“I, Jason, promise you Melissa to keep fast in our marriage;

an expression of gratitude, a living oath to safeguard our love,

and a heart set upon experiencing with you,

ever and ever more deeply,

life lived with courage, grace, light and joy.

I promise this most of all to you dear Melissa, for you, for me, for all of our time-

to wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving you.”

Beautiful and we are grateful to witness this depth of heart.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

VOWS

I celebrated a small wedding for a couple the same day we celebrated the naming ceremony for their second child. These are the beautiful and intimate words they shared:

Today, I take you as my husband/wife, my best friend, my partner in everything and the father/mother of my children.

I promise to… Love you, even on the days I do not like you.

To stand by you and support you wherever life takes us and through whatever life brings us.

To hug you, just because.

I promise to, cherish each moment with you and our boys and be your biggest fan.

To laugh with you and at you.

To always take time for us, no matter how busy life is.

I promise to remember and show you how lucky I feel to have you, not just through words but affection and tenderness.

I loved you yesterday, I love you today , I will love who you are tomorrow and always.

Charles and Cheryl Cavalconte

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Letter to a Young Poet- Rainer Maria Rilke

I had the great good fortune to be introduced to Rilker when I was young and just barely understood. Today, I listen to the words, one by one.

From Letter #27. Rome 1904

It is also good to love: because love is difficult. For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been entrusted to us, the ultimate task, the final test and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation. That is why young people, who are beginners in everything, are not yet capable of love: it is something they must learn. With their whole being, with all their forces, gathered around their solitary, anxious, upward-beating heart, they must learn to love. But learning-time is always a long, secluded time, and therefore loving, for a long time ahead and far on into life, is: solitude, a heightened and deepened kind of aloneness for the person who loves. Loving does not at first mean merging, surrendering, and uniting with another person (for what would a union be of two people who are unclarified, unfinished, and still incoherent?), it is a high inducement for the individual to ripen, to become something in himself, to become world, to become world in himself for the sake of another person; it is a great, demanding claim on him, something that chooses him and calls him to vast distances. Only in this sense, as the task of working on themselves (“to hearken and to hammer day and night”), may young people use the love that is given to them. Merging and surrendering and every kind of communion is not for them (who must still, for a long, long time, save and gather themselves); it is the ultimate, is perhaps that for which human lives are as yet barely large enough.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

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Desiderata

Desiderata, Latin for “desired things” is an extremely popular prose poem used during wedding celebrations as either a reading or final blessing. The American writer Max Ehrmann wrote the poem in 1927 (1872- 1945). The text became popular during the 1970’s and was largely unknown during the author’s lifetime.

The popular account of the poem, up until recently, had been that the poem had been found in a church with the date 1692. The more accurate rendering is that in 1956, the Reverend Frederick Kates, the Rector of Saint Paul’s Church in Baltimore, Maryland included Desiderata in a book of devotional readings he had collected for his congregation. The story goes that this book bears the church’s foundational date and is referenced as “Old Saint Paul’s Church, Baltimore, 1692, A.D”. As a result of being included in this collection, the date of authorship of Desiderata was mistaken to be 1692.

 Desiderata

By Max Ehrmann A Prose Poem

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be critical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive [God] to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.

© Max Ehrmann 1927

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com