There are lots of options about how to “get down the aisle” to the place of your wedding ceremony:
The classic one: Dad with bride
Then Dad and Mom with bride
Then sometimes Mom only with bride.
Then there are the variations with a male family or friend walking bride
Sometimes bride and her children
Sometimes bride and THEIR children
Sometimes bride and groom and their children
Sometimes the couple themselves walk down the aisle hand in hand:
Bride and groom
Bride and bride
Groom and groom
But grooms, whatever you do- DO NOT- repeat DO NOT arrive by helicopter, or boat or parachute or ATV or tractor or any other means and have it be a surprise to your bride and her mother!
Most importantly, let the ritual of your wedding ceremony reflect the reality of your love and lives.
Reminder: while walking down the aisle and who does the honors to walk with you is a tradition, it is also a tradition that has a bit of a dark side. The tradition, also called “giving away”, recalls a time of prearranged marriages and the subservient place of a woman to her birth family now being transferred to her marriage family. We have come along way, however, there is a constant need for mindful awareness of marriage being a lifegiving, mutual, collaborative, and equal partnership in love.
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte