The Black Dot

This is not a wedding ceremony item per se, but rather a life focusing essay that came to us yesterday. We think it is a fantastic reminder and a wonderful piece to have and reflect upon. I am sharing it with as many people as I can.

One day a professor entered the classroom and asked his students to prepare for a surprise test. They all waited anxiously at their desks for the exam to begin. The professor handed out the exam with the text facing down, as usual. Once he handed them all out, he asked the students to turn over the papers.
To everyone’s surprise, there were no questions, just a black dot in the center of the sheet of paper. The professor, seeing the expression on everyone’s faces, told them the following: “ I want you to write about what you see there” The students, confused, got started on the inexplicable task.
At the end of the class the professor took all the exams and started reading each one of them out loud in front of all the students. All of them, with no exception, defined the black dot, trying to explain its position in the center of the sheet. After all had been read, the classroom silent, the professor started to explain: “I am not going to grade you on this, I just wanted to give you something to think about. No one wrote about the white part of the paper. Everyone focused on the black dot, and the same happens in out lives. We have a white piece of paper to observe and enjoy, but we always focus on the dark spots. Our life is a gift given to us (by God) with love and care and we always have reasons to celebrate: nature renewing itself everyday, our friends around us, the job that provides our livelihood, the miracles we see every day… However, we insist on focusing on the dark spot: The health issues that bother us, the lack of money, the complicated relations with family members, the disappointment with a friend. The dark spots are very small when compared to everything we have in our lives, but they are the ones that pollute our minds. Take your eyes away from the black dots in your life. Enjoy each one of your blessings; each moment that life gives you. Be happy and live a life filled with love!

And remember from Sesame Street: it is all about the size of where you put your eye, and that’s about the size of it!

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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Immortal Beloved

In July of 1812, the composer Ludwig Van Beethoven wrote a letter to an unidentified lover. The letter is brimming with his passion and desire for the two of them to be together. His heart overflows with love and longing for this, his Immortal Beloved. In the letter, he shares with her the broad spectrum of everyday challenges that are keeping them apart: distance, the challenges of travel, bad roads, poor accommodations, and work, even the schedule of the mail-coach. We all too easily sense his profound loss and sadness by his being apart from her.

Last Friday, Sarah and Stephen choose to use a portion of this letter to the Immortal Beloved as one of the readings during their wedding ceremony. What follows is a redacted selection from the original ten page letter.

An excerpt from a letter by Ludwig Van Beethoven to his Immortal Beloved: 

My angel, my everything, my very self, I write only a few words today, using your very pencil.

Can our love exist but by sacrifices, by not demanding everything? Can you change it, that you are not completely mine, that I am not completely yours?

Our love demands everything and completely with good reason, that is how it is for me with you, and for you with me. However, we forget all too easily, that I must live for myself and for you as well, for if we were wholly united, you would not feel this as painfully.

I cannot convey to you my observations, which I made during these few days about my life. If our hearts were always close together, I would have no such thoughts. My heart is full with so much to tell you. Oh, there are moments when I feel that language is nothing at all. Cheer up, remain my faithful only darling, my everything as I am for you. The rest is up to The Gods, for what must be for us and for what is in store for us.

Wherever I am, you are with me. As I talk to myself, I talk to you. Arrange it that I can live with you, and what a life we will have. As it is, I am sick without you.

I can only live either wholly with you or not at all. Yes, I have resolved to stray about in the distance, until I can fly into your arms, and send my soul embraced by you into the realm of the Spirits

Angel, I have just heard that the mail-coach leaves every day and thus I must finish so that you may receive this letter immediately. Be patient, only through quiet contemplation of our existence can we achieve our purpose to live together. Be calm, for only by calmly considering our lives can we achieve our purpose of living together.

While still in bed, my thoughts go out to you, my Immortal Beloved. Be calm. Love me today, and yesterday. What tearful longings for you, you my life, my all. Oh continue to love me. Never misjudge the most faithful heart of your beloved. Ever thine. Ever mine. Ever ours. Ludwig.



Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

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