I Do, I Will, I Have ~or~ How wise I am to have instructed the butler – Ogden Nash

This poem was read yesterday at the celebration of the marriage of Jon and Morgan. Both were a little anxious about the ceremony, but there is no doubt about their connectedness and love.

I Do, I Will, I Have- Ogden Nash
“How wise I am to have instructed the butler to instruct the first footman to instruct the second footman to instruct the doorman to order my carriage;
I am about to volunteer a definition of marriage.
Just as I know that there are two Hagens, Walter and Copen,
I know that marriage is a legal and religious alliance entered into by a
man who can’t sleep with the window shut and a woman who can’t sleep with the window open.
Moreover, just as I am unsure of the difference between flora and fauna and flotsam and jetsam,
I am quite sure that marriage is the alliance of two people one of whom never remembers birthdays and the other never forgetsam,
And he refuses to believe there is a leak in the water pipe or the gas pipe and she is convinced she is about to asphyxiate or drown,
And she says Quick get up and get my hairbrushes off the windowsill, it’s raining in, and he replies Oh they’re all right, it’s only raining straight down.
That is why marriage is so much more interesting than divorce,
Because it’s the only known example of the happy meeting of the immovable object and the irresistible force.
So I hope husbands and wives will continue to debate and combat over everything debatable and combatable,
Because I believe a little incompatibility is the spice of life, particulary if he has income and she is pattable.”

• Note: Walter Hagen was golf’s first superstar during the 1920’s and 30’s. Copen Hagen? The capital of Denmark.

Enjoy,
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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The Bridge Across Forever ~ Richard Bach ~

This is an excerpt from The Bridge Across Forever, by Richard Bach. Katie and Andrew used it as a reading during their ceremony this afternoon. A beautiful reading at a very beautiful wedding.

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.”

Enjoy,
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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LOVE: A Litany

In August we shared a variation on Saint Paul’s famous Chapter 13 Letter to the Corinthians. Today, we are expanding that reading into a litany. A litany is a beautiful and easy way to engage all the voices of your guests. The format of the litany /reading is the community says the word LOVE together, and an individual reader or number of readers each speaking out, from his or her place, a stated aspect, element or characteristic of love. The flow or pace is like that of a chant.

C: Community
R: Reader (s)

C: Love: R: is
C: Love: R: does
C: Love: R: grows
C: Love: R: forgives
C: Love: R: rejoices
C: Love: R: is kind
C: Love: R: trusts
C: Love: R: respects
C: Love: R: gives
C: Love: R: endures
C: Love: R: arrives and arises
C: Love: R: is patience
C: Love: R: ignites
C: Love: R: lights
C: Love: R: enlivens
C: Love: R: never fails
C: Love: R: moves in mysterious ways
C: Love: R: has a life of its own
C: Love: R: shows up in unexpected places
C: Love: R: heals
C: Love: R: makes the world go round
C: Love: R: understands
C: Love: R: works its magic
C: Love: R: cares
C: Love: R: is everywhere
C: Love: R: is.

As you can see, a few more or a few less characteristics of love can be added or deleted depending on your thoughts and feelings.

Enjoy
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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“I don’t pretend to know what love is… – Author Unknown

As I was researching the origins of a poem read this evening at a Life Memory Celebration, I came across this wonderful gem:

“I don’t pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you.”

 

Enjoy,
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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Weddings at the State Beach

Many of our recent sharing on this blog  have been readings used or could be during wedding ceremonies; however, as the summer is quickly being packed away in the north, Wedding Season 2016 is already off the ground for so many couples and families. So, we feel this is a great time to comment about weddings in the park, at the beach and other public places. We will comment about the location of your wedding ceremony  again since the place of the wedding ceremony extremely foundational to the entire celebration!

This past weekend in the USA was the weekend after Labor Day, traditional the beginning of the Autumn Season in the USA. However, the month of September provides beautiful summer like days in the Northeast and New England where many people continue to celebrate many summertime events, for instance RV camporee!

So, one of our state beach stories: the couple thought it would be wonderful to have their wedding ceremony celebrated at the ocean state beach the weekend after Labor Day when they expected things would be a little more quiet. They choose the Saturday after Labor Day thinking they would have the beach mostly for themselves, their families and friends. However, they did not check the calendar of events at the State Beach. So, imagine their surprise when they arrived at the place for their celebration at the state beach and were they were greeted by hundreds of RV’s and campers celebrating a wonderfully warm and beautiful Saturday afternoon in September!

The wedding ceremony went very well and as planned, nestled in the dunes, however, with the addition of a few hundred unexpected well wishers. The campers were a great help directing traffic and guiding guests to parking areas. They were very respectful in keeping an appropriate distance during the ceremony, however, when the couple came over the hill from the sand dune, after the ceremony, the couple immediately became rock stars for the day! Hundreds of campers welcomed the couple with cheered of joy and clapping welcoming the newly wedded couple into the state of marriage. All went well that afternoon, making the celebration all the more memorable, however, the moral of the story, if you do not want to have hundreds of unexpected guests at your wedding and a similar surprise at your celebration, please, by all means, check the calendar of your venue.

All the Best.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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Two Step, by Dave Matthews and 9/11

The memory of this date and the lyrics of the song Two Step go hand in hand for us with a story that is worth telling. The lyrics were recently used as a reading at one of our weddings and immediately brought us back to the weekend following Tuesday, September 11, 2001.  That weekend, like most weekends in September, were full of weddings and celebrations,  however the grief and terror that shook our nation that week changed the lives, plans and memories of our nation and of many bridal couples. Each wedding we celebrated that weekend struggled with the choice of “how can we celebrate with so much national sadness?” All flights were grounded and guests could not fly due to the restrictions. Guest lists were dramatically cut due to so many travel plans being uprooted.  Others made the personal choice to celebrate in the face of so much grief. However, though all this and through all these years, one weddings we celebrated on that somber weekend experienced the most profound and tragic loss and sacrifice of all. The bride was a buyer for TJMax. Since it was her wedding week, she did not get on that plane at Logan Airport to go to the conference in California with her co-workers, three of whom were the bridesmaids in her wedding party. Those three women were on the plane that hit The World Trade Center Towers.  We share the lyrics of the song “Two Step” in their memory.

“Two Step”
Dave Matthew

My love, I came to you with best intentions
You laid down and gave to me just what I’m seeking
Love, you drive me to distraction

My love do you believe that we
might last a thousand years
Or more if not for this,
Our flesh and blood,
It ties you and me right up
Tie me down

Celebrate we will
Because life is short but sweet for certain
We’re climbing two by two,
To be sure these days continue
Things we cannot change.

My love, you came to me like
wine comes to this mouth
Grown tired of water all the time
You quench my heart and, you quench my mind

Celebrate we will
because life is short but sweet for certain

 

In memory,

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

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