I Do, I Will, I Have ~or~ How wise I am to have instructed the butler – Ogden Nash

This poem was read yesterday at the celebration of the marriage of Jon and Morgan. Both were a little anxious about the ceremony, but there is no doubt about their connectedness and love.

I Do, I Will, I Have- Ogden Nash
“How wise I am to have instructed the butler to instruct the first footman to instruct the second footman to instruct the doorman to order my carriage;
I am about to volunteer a definition of marriage.
Just as I know that there are two Hagens, Walter and Copen,
I know that marriage is a legal and religious alliance entered into by a
man who can’t sleep with the window shut and a woman who can’t sleep with the window open.
Moreover, just as I am unsure of the difference between flora and fauna and flotsam and jetsam,
I am quite sure that marriage is the alliance of two people one of whom never remembers birthdays and the other never forgetsam,
And he refuses to believe there is a leak in the water pipe or the gas pipe and she is convinced she is about to asphyxiate or drown,
And she says Quick get up and get my hairbrushes off the windowsill, it’s raining in, and he replies Oh they’re all right, it’s only raining straight down.
That is why marriage is so much more interesting than divorce,
Because it’s the only known example of the happy meeting of the immovable object and the irresistible force.
So I hope husbands and wives will continue to debate and combat over everything debatable and combatable,
Because I believe a little incompatibility is the spice of life, particulary if he has income and she is pattable.”

• Note: Walter Hagen was golf’s first superstar during the 1920’s and 30’s. Copen Hagen? The capital of Denmark.

Enjoy,
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Please visit our other sites and like us, Thanks.
http://www.createyourownweddingceremony.com
http://www.weddingministersri.com
http://onlytheceremony.com
http://www.recoverysayings.wordpress.com

Why no images in this blog? We feel it is the words you share with each other during your wedding ceremony that are the most important part of your day.

Hugs are Healing

For us, HUGS are HEALING. Hugs are a special place. Hugs allow for the wholeness of two hearts to grow, brought close together by desire, intent, honesty, openness and willingness, all warmed by love. Hugs allow for the healing of the whole body, mind, spirit and the history of two people. Hugs, freely given, and received, receive the universe of another into the obit of each other’s lives. Hugs are and allow for connection. Hugs say “you matter”. Safe, warm, loving hugs are healing. This poem by Shel Silverstein brings a smile to our faces each time we  hear it. May you hug or be hugged  today and win!

“Hug O War” … by Shel Silverstein

“I will not play at Tug O War

I’d rather play at Hug O War

Where everyone hugs

Instead of tugs

Where everyone giggles

And rolls on the rug.

Where everyone kisses,

And everyone grins,

And everyone cuddles,

And everyone wins.

Charlies and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

Union – A Heartfelt Essay

The essay entitled “UNION” , is a very popular choice for wedding ceremonies. The reading came to us a few years ago from one of our couples who selected to use the essay during their wedding.  Over this past weekend a wonderful couple, filled with energy and connectedness, used it during their wedding ceremony. Charlie has always found this essay deeply moving. He was so deeply moved yesterday, especially as it related to this couple, he could not  get through the reading without having a wet eye or two.  He feels the reading is a warm and intimate snapshot of what happens to two hearts coming together to become one. The author,  Robert Fulghum, is a minister in the Pacific Northwest. Robert is the author of many bestsellers.

 UNION

You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.

For after today you shall say to the world –
This is my husband. This is my wife.

 

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

 

We Have Been at Weddings

 

We have had, so far, an absolutely fabulously full and wonderful summer  filled with beautiful,warm, and exquisite weddings here in Southern New England . We have traveled some visiting family and friends, worked around the house and garden and of course our been busy at our daily jobs. The wedding ceremonies we have witnessed as officiants to a spectrum of great couples have been filled with sensitive, tender, loving, lush, warm and wonderful words conveying the abundant, rich, loving and tender feelings towards each other, their families and friends.
We have been absent from writing our  blog because of all this goodness, we know, this is a terrible excuse. So,for the second half of the summer, and for the next few months of the wedding season here in Rhode Island and Southern New England,  we are making a commitment to share aspects of these wonderful ceremonies we have witnessed. We hope you enjoy,and are touched by, the warm and sensitive words these loving couple have used to convey the fullness of their hearts and their commitment to each other. Please stay tuned.
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
weddingministersri.com

 

Marriage Box

The following is from very dear friends, Paul and Carol Riley who are spectacularly in love and have shared their love with thousands of young couples preparing for marriage in their leading Engaged Encounter weekends. Thanks Paul and Carol for your years of love and dedicated service. C&C

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com