The Honey Ceremony

We met this evening with a delightful couple to plan the details of their May wedding. They are planning to use the Honey Ceremony, within their wedding ceremony. The Honey Ceremony is a new experience for us. The couple is going to either dip their fingers into the honey or use small spoons. They have not decided yet whether to use fingers or spoons. They will be invited to taste the sweetness of the honey, symbolizing the sweetness of their lives, their love and their vows. They will be giving honey to their guests as favors. We thought this a sweet idea to pass on and share.

Two more thoughts about this ceremony of sharing: use local honey and give small jars of honey to the guests as a “favor”.

Enjoy
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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A Ring Blessing

Here is a wonderful idea that we have used for guest involvement during the wedding ceremony:
A blessing/prayer over/good and loving thought and wish on the rings: at the beginning of the ceremony the officiant places the weddings rings of the couple in a small mesh bag so the rings can be seen. The mesh bag is for the just in case measure if they fall on the floor or on to the grass or in sand! The officiant invite the guests to pass the rings between each guest and for each guest to hold the rings for a few moments and offer a prayer, a loving thought, or blessing over them. The passing of the rings take place during the entire ceremony up until the time the rings are needed for the exchange of rings by the couple. I feel this is a wonderful way for the guests to share in the ceremony in a very intimate way.
Charles and Cheryl Cavalconte

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Tulle and The Outside Wedding

We love tulle (for the guys: this is pronounced “tool”, so when you hear the word, don’t think work). This is a wonderful fabric and naturally the fabric most often thought about when couples or mothers and daughters start thinking weddings, dresses, veils,  ceremonies and decorating. Tulle has many wonderful uses. Additionally, the cost of tulle is very reasonable. Wrap ordinary chairs with tulle and you immediately have a special environment. Drape it from chair to chair. Hang it over the railings. It is a great material and easy to use. Some of the most beautiful dresses we have seen are layered with tulle. However, we raise this consideration: some environments are more tulle friendly than others. A wedding ceremony and reception inside, is usually tulle friendly.  If, however you are having your wedding ceremony and reception in a garden or mostly outside you may want to consider the season and the bug population. Remember tulle is essentially netting and a tulle dress might not be the best outside choice. We have seen a fabulous bridal dress of tulle at a magnificent garden wedding catch and trap gnats and flies much to the consternation of the bride. In most cases, some bug repellent will take care of this issue. So as with so many things about your ceremony, consider the conditions of the outside environment.

Charlie and Cheryl

http://www.weddingministersri.com

Now is the Time to Start Planning

Now that the holidays are over, the Superbowl is won, and the red glow of Valentine’s Day is fading, and many are now  in the place to really “buckle down”to start the planning process for “the big day”

In our blog we are going to reflect upon our experiences as wedding officiants who have celebrated about 1700 weddings ceremonies: big and small, inside and outside, in churches, at clubs, at beaches, on boats and more, mostly in Rhode Island, Cape Cod, South Coast Massachusetts, Westchester County and Long Island, NY. I mention the locations since NYC, Metro NY/NJ and RI are some of the most expensive place in the United States to have a wedding as such we have celebrated a very broad spectrum of wedding ceremonies.

We hope our experiences will benefit you in planning your big day. There is no set order to the topics we will be sharing, about, it will be more or less what the muses dictate, so enjoy.

We ask you also to bear with us and our social media foibles since we continue to be on the learning curve. So please like, share, follow, tweet, etc. etc.etc. Thanks. We also look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Charlie and Cheryl

www.weddingministersri.com

Winter Wedding Weather Warning

We were planning to write about this topic later, however, with this a holiday weekend celebrating both Valentine’s Day and President’s Day and heavy snow forecast for most of  the East Coast, we thought this would be a great time to write about this very unique winter wedding topic.

We promise you, you will never see images of what we are about to describe  in a bridal magazine. Your wedding photographer will never show you pictures of this happening. More than likely, only a few people, have seen this however, we are sure they would never forget the experience.

We are speaking about what happens when a full-length bridal gown, not protected from the snow and wet, is accidentally dragged in the slush. It is not pretty, wet, cold, muddy, slushy: not pretty. We have seen it, not pretty.

The very simple, yet somewhat odd-looking remedy, that will save the winter storm bride lots of tears is for someone to have ready an extremely large plastic garbage bag, with two holes cut in the bottom. Just before the brides leave the house or hotel for the ceremony, she steps carefully into the bag while wearing the dress. With the help of her bridal attendances, they “stuff” bride and dress into the bag, protecting the dress and the bride from the mud and slush!

We will be the first to admit that this “bride in a bag” looks a little odd, however, it certainly beats having the bottom eight inches of the dress absorbed with mud and slush!

Once at the church, reception hall, or photo studio she step out of the bag and the dress is dry waiting a little fluffing!

The bride can even wear her favorite pair of wellies! Now that’s a picture!

Charlie and Cheryl

www.weddingministersri.com

The Place for Your Ceremony

After the “Yes” and all the sharing about your engagement, one of the first questions about your wedding will be, “Where are we going to have the celebration?” Here is an unorganized list of places where you might want to celebrate your love knotting: There are the different churches, temples, mosques, chapels, and synagogues. Then there is everything else: Museums of all types: art, history, natural history, arboretums, historic village museums. Atriums of unique buildings (office buildings, college buildings,  private homes, etc.)  Vineyards, gardens, parks, both large and small, New England Town Commons, gazebos, a mountain top, a desert oasis, rock jetties, cliffs. The campus of a private school or college and the chapel or “great hall” of such places, sailboats, state parks, ferries, trains, covered bridges. If that were not enough, how about historic mansions, lighthouses, aircraft hangers, docks and boat houses, public beaches and private beaches, or even the zoo. Penthouses and summer cottages and camps, your parent’s, or your neighbor or boss’ backyard, the observation deck of famous buildings or natural lookout places. Depending on membership and sponsorship, there are country clubs, yacht clubs, sports and hunting clubs (depending) on flavor and membership. And there are military posts and bases depending on sponsorship clearance and security issues. Believe it or not, we officiated a lovely small wedding in a small grove of trees in the middle of a historic cemetery with old stones both standing in the ground and leaning against the trees.

The list goes on and on limited only by your imagination, budget and the sometime practical concerns. How do people get there? Can grandma get there? How far to travel? What about the weather? Etc. but for now, dream! Happy Celebrating!

Charlie and Cheryl http://www.weddingministersri.com

Next Time: Rethinking the DIY wedding.