Tan Lines

It is pretty safe to say that by Mother’s Day, winter is behind us in the Northern Hemisphere and we are loving the sun. People are out and about soaking up the rays, which brings us to a very unique point of view and to a potentially major distraction to your wedding ceremony: TAN LINES

Now is the time in spring to address the nemesis of the summer and fall wedding bare shoulder look. As wedding officiants we are not kidding when we say: by the time we see the TAN LINES it is too late!

No matter how you take care of the situation to avoid TAN LINES, totally or by covering them up, whatever you do, please do it, take action, make a note and remember now is the time to address this aspect of your wedding planning. The lines fade but the photos remains.

SO, happy, wise, and prudent tanning, regardless of how you achieve the golden glow.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

 

Ceremony Seating

Last Saturday, May 3, our anniversary, and Derby Day, we celebrated a wonderful, warm, and intimate wedding at the Five Bridges Inn in Rehoboth, MA . The following sign was at the end of the aisle as guest walked to the ceremony area. This was our first encounter with this statement. We think it is a very lovely thought to set a wonderful feeling and tone for the day.

 Please choose a seat not a side

We are all a family

Once  the knot is tied.

Have a wonderful and love filled day.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

www.weddingministersri.com

Who is walking you down the aisle?

This is easily one of the most hotly contested subjects at the wedding rehearsal and later after the ceremony. Almost every person who has thought about getting married somehow sees him or herself walking down the aisle one way or the other. But how?

Our blog for today will consider the more traditional wedding. More often than not the male groomsmen, with the groom (Partner A), enters the ceremony site somewhat unceremoniously from the side and stands at the top of the aisle at the ceremony site, waiting for the balance of the bridal party to arrive: grand parents, parents, brides maids and then the bride (Partner B) walks down the aisle. So now the question: who is going to walk the bride down the aisle? There are several options: the most traditional is with dad or a male member of the family, then there area few other options: mom and dad together, whether bride parent’s are divorced or not. The bride walking with her children, regardless of whether the children are older or younger. Then, there is the bride coming down the aisle by herself. Lastly, a sort of new trend: bride and groom walk down the aisle together fully representing what the celebration is about: The two of them getting married to each other.

We would further like to suggest the language of “giving the bride away” as really no longer a fitting or even an acceptable phrase since it comes from a time when marriages were arranged and women were consider chattel. We have had many conversations with professional women: doctors, nurses, lawyers, college professors, company presidents, and founders, teachers, etc.: women who have been very successful in the worlds of business, academics, arts and science and yet some how have been talked into feeling the need to be accompanied and walked down the aisle. We ask the question: What does walking down the aisle accompanied by another “giving you away” say or symbolically represent? Is this a message you want to present? We pose the question for conversation.

Yes, there are traditions, however, how do they speak to this generation?

Tulle and The Outside Wedding

We love tulle (for the guys: this is pronounced “tool”, so when you hear the word, don’t think work). This is a wonderful fabric and naturally the fabric most often thought about when couples or mothers and daughters start thinking weddings, dresses, veils,  ceremonies and decorating. Tulle has many wonderful uses. Additionally, the cost of tulle is very reasonable. Wrap ordinary chairs with tulle and you immediately have a special environment. Drape it from chair to chair. Hang it over the railings. It is a great material and easy to use. Some of the most beautiful dresses we have seen are layered with tulle. However, we raise this consideration: some environments are more tulle friendly than others. A wedding ceremony and reception inside, is usually tulle friendly.  If, however you are having your wedding ceremony and reception in a garden or mostly outside you may want to consider the season and the bug population. Remember tulle is essentially netting and a tulle dress might not be the best outside choice. We have seen a fabulous bridal dress of tulle at a magnificent garden wedding catch and trap gnats and flies much to the consternation of the bride. In most cases, some bug repellent will take care of this issue. So as with so many things about your ceremony, consider the conditions of the outside environment.

Charlie and Cheryl

http://www.weddingministersri.com

Now is the Time to Start Planning

Now that the holidays are over, the Superbowl is won, and the red glow of Valentine’s Day is fading, and many are now  in the place to really “buckle down”to start the planning process for “the big day”

In our blog we are going to reflect upon our experiences as wedding officiants who have celebrated about 1700 weddings ceremonies: big and small, inside and outside, in churches, at clubs, at beaches, on boats and more, mostly in Rhode Island, Cape Cod, South Coast Massachusetts, Westchester County and Long Island, NY. I mention the locations since NYC, Metro NY/NJ and RI are some of the most expensive place in the United States to have a wedding as such we have celebrated a very broad spectrum of wedding ceremonies.

We hope our experiences will benefit you in planning your big day. There is no set order to the topics we will be sharing, about, it will be more or less what the muses dictate, so enjoy.

We ask you also to bear with us and our social media foibles since we continue to be on the learning curve. So please like, share, follow, tweet, etc. etc.etc. Thanks. We also look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Charlie and Cheryl

www.weddingministersri.com

Winter Wedding Weather Warning

We were planning to write about this topic later, however, with this a holiday weekend celebrating both Valentine’s Day and President’s Day and heavy snow forecast for most of  the East Coast, we thought this would be a great time to write about this very unique winter wedding topic.

We promise you, you will never see images of what we are about to describe  in a bridal magazine. Your wedding photographer will never show you pictures of this happening. More than likely, only a few people, have seen this however, we are sure they would never forget the experience.

We are speaking about what happens when a full-length bridal gown, not protected from the snow and wet, is accidentally dragged in the slush. It is not pretty, wet, cold, muddy, slushy: not pretty. We have seen it, not pretty.

The very simple, yet somewhat odd-looking remedy, that will save the winter storm bride lots of tears is for someone to have ready an extremely large plastic garbage bag, with two holes cut in the bottom. Just before the brides leave the house or hotel for the ceremony, she steps carefully into the bag while wearing the dress. With the help of her bridal attendances, they “stuff” bride and dress into the bag, protecting the dress and the bride from the mud and slush!

We will be the first to admit that this “bride in a bag” looks a little odd, however, it certainly beats having the bottom eight inches of the dress absorbed with mud and slush!

Once at the church, reception hall, or photo studio she step out of the bag and the dress is dry waiting a little fluffing!

The bride can even wear her favorite pair of wellies! Now that’s a picture!

Charlie and Cheryl

www.weddingministersri.com

The Place for Your Ceremony

After the “Yes” and all the sharing about your engagement, one of the first questions about your wedding will be, “Where are we going to have the celebration?” Here is an unorganized list of places where you might want to celebrate your love knotting: There are the different churches, temples, mosques, chapels, and synagogues. Then there is everything else: Museums of all types: art, history, natural history, arboretums, historic village museums. Atriums of unique buildings (office buildings, college buildings,  private homes, etc.)  Vineyards, gardens, parks, both large and small, New England Town Commons, gazebos, a mountain top, a desert oasis, rock jetties, cliffs. The campus of a private school or college and the chapel or “great hall” of such places, sailboats, state parks, ferries, trains, covered bridges. If that were not enough, how about historic mansions, lighthouses, aircraft hangers, docks and boat houses, public beaches and private beaches, or even the zoo. Penthouses and summer cottages and camps, your parent’s, or your neighbor or boss’ backyard, the observation deck of famous buildings or natural lookout places. Depending on membership and sponsorship, there are country clubs, yacht clubs, sports and hunting clubs (depending) on flavor and membership. And there are military posts and bases depending on sponsorship clearance and security issues. Believe it or not, we officiated a lovely small wedding in a small grove of trees in the middle of a historic cemetery with old stones both standing in the ground and leaning against the trees.

The list goes on and on limited only by your imagination, budget and the sometime practical concerns. How do people get there? Can grandma get there? How far to travel? What about the weather? Etc. but for now, dream! Happy Celebrating!

Charlie and Cheryl http://www.weddingministersri.com

Next Time: Rethinking the DIY wedding.