Handfasting Ritual

Handfasting is an interesting ritual. Many cultures have a form of Handfasting and the varieties of performing this ritual are as varied as the cultures that use it. Handfasting is a ritual of binding. The couple, after exchanging their rings with each other, is bound together in a covenant of marriage, of fidelity, and of love.

The ritual has, over the years, evolved. Today  couples “Handfast” with a variety of “handfastners” reflecting their profession, hobby or sport. So for instances,  electricians have used  wire or zip ties, police officers, zip ties and handcuffs. Some first responders /firefighters use a smaller piece of rescue rope. Mountain climbers have used rope and the clips called carabiners. Sailors rope and halyard line, nurses IV tubing, and surgeons, surgical tubing.  Whimsical, yes, but great variation of the ritual  to make the ceremony more unique and personal. Ribbon is most often used. The colors white, ivory, the color theme of the wedding the most popular.

We hope you have enjoyed your visit and this has been helpful.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony Script Writers, Consultants
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Why no images on our blog?  Wedding images come and go with fashion and with the season, so many and so varied. We feel it is the words you share with each other, during your wedding ceremony, that are some of the most significant and intimate words you will ever share and, like gems, are unique and personal.

VOWS: Ways To Celebrate Your love

Each couple feels differently about the way they actually say/proclaim their marriage wedding vows. We have seen couples celebrate their vows in a few different ways. Below are a some ideas about how you are able to  share your vows with each other before your families and friends.

1-The celebrant/minister/officiant asks each one of the couple a few questions and each responds individually with “I DO” to the questions.

2-The celebrant/minister/officiant asks the vow questions to the couple as a couple and the couple responds together as a couple saying “WE DO” to the questions.

3-The celebrant/minister/officiant reads a few words and each one of the couple “Repeats” the words spoken by the officiant after the officiant, thus the statement: “Repeat after me”

4- The couple reads their vows to each other. This style has the couple focused on the reading of the vows holding the paper/card/book that the vows are written on. This presents challenges if the couple wants to both hold both hands and look into each others eyes. The focus becomes more on reading the vows than being focused on each other.

5-The celebrant/minister/officiant asks each party a question and each responds individually with “I DO” to the question OR the celebrant asks the couple the vow questions to the couple as a couple and the couple responds together as a couple saying “WE DO” to the questions. THEN the celebrant/minister/officiant reads a few words to each one of the couple individually and each individually “Repeats” the words spoken by the officiant.

6-Any combination of the about that will work the best for the two of you.

We strongly encourage not to share your vows from memory since the focus of “wanting to remember the vows perfectly” creates further anxiety by of not wanting to make a mistake if will the vows be remembered correctly. Speaking the vows from memory often becomes the focus, so much of the ceremony is missed due to the worry about “getting the vows right and will I remember them”.

We hope you have enjoyed your visit and this has been helpful.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony Script Writers, Consultants
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Why no images on our blog?  Wedding images come and go and there are so many and so varied. We feel it is the words you share with each other, during your wedding ceremony, that are some of the most significant and intimate words you will ever share and, like gems, are personally yours.

Bread and Salt Ceremony

Hilary and Mike wanted to include the traditional Polish Bread and Salt Blessing in their wedding ceremony. We found in our  research that a bread and salt blessing ritual ceremony is a tradition shared by many cultures. The following outline is modified from a variety of Polish Bread and Salt Blessing sources.

The Polish Bread and Salt Blessing

We suggest, for a good flow to the ceremony, to place the bread and salt blessing within the wedding ceremony after the Exchange of Rings, the Pronouncement and the Kiss, AND before the Final Blessing and Dismissal.

Introduction:
Celebrant: (In these or similar words) “The Bread and Salt Blessing is a long cherished Polish tradition which has been passed down through the centuries. It symbolizes the union of the Bride and Groom and their families”.
I invite____ parent’s forward to give the blessing.

Ceremony Description and Text
~The parents of the bride and groom come forward and present to the couple bread and salt and a glass of wine.
~The celebrant, or one of the parents, can narrate the action and add appropriate words.
~The parents sprinkle the bread with salt and give the bread to both of the newlyweds to eat.
-The bread represents the parent’s hope that their children will never experience hunger or need.
-The salt reminds the couple that their life might difficult at times and they must learn together to cope with life’s struggles.
-The parents now present the glass of wine to the Bride and Groom for each of them to drink. With the wine, the parents hope that they will never thirst and the couple will have a life of good health and cheer and share the company of many good friends.
~The parents now join in kissing the bride and groom as a welcome to the family and as a sign of their love and unity.”
~Parents return to their places.

The wedding ceremony ends with the Final Blessing
The bride and groom proceed down the aisle or otherwise leave the ceremony site.

We hope you have enjoyed your visit.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony Script Writers, Consultants
Please like us, share and visit our other sites to help prepare for your big day.
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We are extremely pleased to have Caitlin Nash, MPH, RD, LDN join us to help prepare you and your body for the big day. Cait is a Personal Trainer, Registered Dietician & Beachboy Coach.
Please visit her exciting websites. Let her help you become a healthier you:
Www.shakeology.com/caitRD
Www.teambeachbody.com/caitRD
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Why no images on our blog?  Wedding images come and go and there are so many and so varied. We feel it is the words you share with each other, during your wedding ceremony, that are some of the most significant and intimate words you will ever share and, like gems, are personally yours.

Weddings at the State Beach

Many of our recent sharing on this blog  have been readings used or could be during wedding ceremonies; however, as the summer is quickly being packed away in the north, Wedding Season 2016 is already off the ground for so many couples and families. So, we feel this is a great time to comment about weddings in the park, at the beach and other public places. We will comment about the location of your wedding ceremony  again since the place of the wedding ceremony extremely foundational to the entire celebration!

This past weekend in the USA was the weekend after Labor Day, traditional the beginning of the Autumn Season in the USA. However, the month of September provides beautiful summer like days in the Northeast and New England where many people continue to celebrate many summertime events, for instance RV camporee!

So, one of our state beach stories: the couple thought it would be wonderful to have their wedding ceremony celebrated at the ocean state beach the weekend after Labor Day when they expected things would be a little more quiet. They choose the Saturday after Labor Day thinking they would have the beach mostly for themselves, their families and friends. However, they did not check the calendar of events at the State Beach. So, imagine their surprise when they arrived at the place for their celebration at the state beach and were they were greeted by hundreds of RV’s and campers celebrating a wonderfully warm and beautiful Saturday afternoon in September!

The wedding ceremony went very well and as planned, nestled in the dunes, however, with the addition of a few hundred unexpected well wishers. The campers were a great help directing traffic and guiding guests to parking areas. They were very respectful in keeping an appropriate distance during the ceremony, however, when the couple came over the hill from the sand dune, after the ceremony, the couple immediately became rock stars for the day! Hundreds of campers welcomed the couple with cheered of joy and clapping welcoming the newly wedded couple into the state of marriage. All went well that afternoon, making the celebration all the more memorable, however, the moral of the story, if you do not want to have hundreds of unexpected guests at your wedding and a similar surprise at your celebration, please, by all means, check the calendar of your venue.

All the Best.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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Why no images in this blog? We feel it is the words you share with each other during your wedding ceremony that are the most important part of your day.

Who is Walking Whom Down the Aisle?

There are lots of options about how to “get down the aisle” to the place of your wedding ceremony:
The classic one: Dad with bride
Then Dad and Mom with bride
Then sometimes Mom only with bride.
Then there are the variations with a male family or friend walking bride
Sometimes bride and her children
Sometimes bride and THEIR children
Sometimes bride and groom and their children
Sometimes the couple themselves walk down the aisle hand in hand:
Bride and groom
Bride and bride
Groom and groom

But grooms, whatever you do- DO NOT- repeat  DO NOT arrive by helicopter, or boat or parachute or ATV or tractor or any other means and have it be a surprise to your bride and her mother!

Most importantly, let the ritual of your wedding ceremony reflect the reality of your love and lives.

Reminder: while walking down the aisle and who does the honors  to walk with you is a tradition, it is also a tradition that has a bit of a dark side. The tradition, also called “giving away”, recalls a time of prearranged marriages and the subservient place of a woman to her birth family now being transferred to her marriage family. We have come along way, however, there is a constant need for mindful awareness of marriage being a lifegiving, mutual, collaborative, and equal partnership in love.

Enjoy
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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Blowing Bubbles

We love bubbles. Everyone loves bubbles. We think blowing bubbles brings out the kid in us all and it is a great way to get all your wedding guests engaged and actively participating in the joy of your ceremony. When a couple wants to use bubbles, we get some of the kids (of all ages) involved by having them go up and down the aisle distributing the bottles of bubbles to the guests if the guests have not already picked up their bubble bottle upon arrival. Sometimes there are bubble machines, which are great fun. Couples can either purchase or rent the bubble machines or sometimes the DJ or lighting designer might have a bubble machines for rent.

Regardless of whether the bubbles come from a bubble bottle “the old fashion way” or from a bubble making machine, when the humidity is right, with the right amount of breeze, and with plenty of bubbles being created by your guests, some of the very best photo images of your wedding ceremony celebration will be taken as you walk out arm in arm (or holding hands,) totally embraced by bubbles, as if your were in the bottom of a champagne glass! A totally magical experience!

Have a wonderful and love filled day

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

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A Ring Blessing

Here is a wonderful idea that we have used for guest involvement during the wedding ceremony:
A blessing/prayer over/good and loving thought and wish on the rings: at the beginning of the ceremony the officiant places the weddings rings of the couple in a small mesh bag so the rings can be seen. The mesh bag is for the just in case measure if they fall on the floor or on to the grass or in sand! The officiant invite the guests to pass the rings between each guest and for each guest to hold the rings for a few moments and offer a prayer, a loving thought, or blessing over them. The passing of the rings take place during the entire ceremony up until the time the rings are needed for the exchange of rings by the couple. I feel this is a wonderful way for the guests to share in the ceremony in a very intimate way.
Charles and Cheryl Cavalconte

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Tan Lines

It is pretty safe to say that by Mother’s Day, winter is behind us in the Northern Hemisphere and we are loving the sun. People are out and about soaking up the rays, which brings us to a very unique point of view and to a potentially major distraction to your wedding ceremony: TAN LINES

Now is the time in spring to address the nemesis of the summer and fall wedding bare shoulder look. As wedding officiants we are not kidding when we say: by the time we see the TAN LINES it is too late!

No matter how you take care of the situation to avoid TAN LINES, totally or by covering them up, whatever you do, please do it, take action, make a note and remember now is the time to address this aspect of your wedding planning. The lines fade but the photos remains.

SO, happy, wise, and prudent tanning, regardless of how you achieve the golden glow.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

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Ceremony Seating

Last Saturday, May 3, our anniversary, and Derby Day, we celebrated a wonderful, warm, and intimate wedding at the Five Bridges Inn in Rehoboth, MA . The following sign was at the end of the aisle as guest walked to the ceremony area. This was our first encounter with this statement. We think it is a very lovely thought to set a wonderful feeling and tone for the day.

 Please choose a seat not a side

We are all a family

Once  the knot is tied.

Have a wonderful and love filled day.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

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When Tragedy Befalls a Wedding.

This past weekend Lakeville Pavilion, a very popular wedding venue in Foxboro, MA, not far from Gillette Stadium home to the NE Patriots, where we have celebrated many weddings, had a massive fire during a wedding, destroying the venue, and subsequently the dreams and plans of many, many couples for this season and next. Our hearts go out to all who have been touched by this tragedy.

So, what would you do, if a tragedy like, death, fire, accident, sudden hospitalization, or something similar occurred to you or your family? As wedding officiants, we have unfortunately shared in a few of these tragic experiences and they are emotionally devastating to the couple and their families. Naturally, most people do not like to speak about these events, however we feel it worth noting.

First, and gratefully, the statics for these incidents occurring are very rare. Second, from our experience, these tragedies have been the opportunity for a couple and their families, to put their best foot forward. It did not matter whether the families were rich or poor, sophisticated and educated or not, across the board, the families stepped up to the plate and made the most sincere and genuine contribution to ease the pain, as best as they possibly could, during these sudden and tragic times. These are not the times to blame any one for anything. These are times for compassion and comfort, for understanding and sensitivity. These are the times for love to be the profound healing presence necessary in the life of the couple, the families and the guests. Each circumstance is different and is experienced differently by each person involved. We personally feel it is essential to come together and not to isolate; others want to be present and supportive to those hurt by these events. We believe people are good and want to be helpful. In these sad times, please, come together with family and close friends, some food, not too much wine, and have time together. Allow the pace to slow down to be together, to listen and consult with each other in order to make the best decisions given the circumstances. Please, forget past family resentments, they are useless. Breath. Let the silly, foolish and sometimes thoughtless things people say, in their feeble attempts to ease your pain, go. If you pray, invite your higher power into the situation. No one wishes a tragedy on anyone, least of all a bridal couple days or hours before or after their wedding, however, if unfortunately the moment arises, watch how the power, spirit and sensitivity of love, healing and compassion rises from the hearts of good men, women and children, who care, love and are instruments of peace.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

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