The Secret Garden – Frances Hodgson Burnett

The Secret Garden is a magical story of life, mystery, healing, growth, transformation and love. The story is a beautiful metaphor for so many aspects of our lives and hearts as both individuals and as a couple. Frances Hodgson Burnett shares with us an intimate glimpse of forever and how it speaks to the heart of lovers.

“One of the strange things about living in the world is that it is only now and then one is quite sure one is going
to live forever and ever and ever.

One knows it sometimes when one gets up at the tender solemn dawn-time and goes out and stands alone and throws one’s head far back and looks up and up and watches the pale sky slowly changing and flushing and marvelous unknown things happening until the East almost makes one cry out and one’s heart stands still at the strange unchanging majesty of the rising of the sun—which has been happening every morning for thousands and thousands of years.

One knows it then for a moment or so.

And one knows it sometimes when
one stands by oneself in a wood at sunset and the mysterious deep gold stillness slanting through and under the branches seems to be saying slowly again and again
something one cannot quite hear, however much one tries.

Then sometimes
the immense quiet of the dark blue at night with millions of stars waiting and watching makes one sure;
and sometimes a sound of far-off music makes it true;
and sometimes
a look in someone’s eye.”

 

 

Enjoy,
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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From Gifts from the Sea

A great book for reflection about relationships is Anne Morrow Lindbergh’s “Gift from the Sea”. This essay taken from the book, was a reading at Jennifer and Matt’s wedding in September.

“When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity – in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.

The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits – islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.”

Enjoy,
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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From Love Letters of Nathaniel Hawthorne, Vol 1

Yesterday, in near hurricane conditions, Matt and Kate stood in the midst of an autumn garden and celebrated their love and exchanged their vows.

On October 4, 1840, 175 years ago today, Nathaniel Hawthorne wrote Sophia Peabody, his betrothed a letter. A  portion of that letter was used by Matt and Kate as the first reading of their ceremony.

Kate and Matt called this reading, for them, Epigraph. An Epigraph is: 1) an inscription on a building, statue or coin. 2) A short quote or saying at the beginning of a book or chapter, intended to suggest its theme. And, what a wonderfully worded theme it is.

From Love Letters of Nathaniel Hawthorne, Vol 1

4 October 1840

I used to think that I could imagine all passions, all feelings, all states of the heart and mind; but how little did I know what it is to be mingled with another’s being! Thou only hast taught me that I have a heart– thou only hast thrown a light deep downward, and upward, into my soul. Thou only hast revealed me to myself; for without thy aid, my best knowledge of myself would have been merely to know my own shadow– to watch it flickering on the wall, and mistake its fantasies for my own real actions.
Indeed, we are but shadows– we are not endowed with real life, and all that seems most real about us is but the thinnest substance of a dream– till the heart is touched. That touch creates us– then we begin to be– thereby we are beings of reality, and inheritors of eternity. Now, dearest, dost thou comprehend what thou hast done for me? And is it not a somewhat fearful thought, that a few slight circumstances might have prevented us from meeting?

 

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Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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I Do, I Will, I Have ~or~ How wise I am to have instructed the butler – Ogden Nash

This poem was read yesterday at the celebration of the marriage of Jon and Morgan. Both were a little anxious about the ceremony, but there is no doubt about their connectedness and love.

I Do, I Will, I Have- Ogden Nash
“How wise I am to have instructed the butler to instruct the first footman to instruct the second footman to instruct the doorman to order my carriage;
I am about to volunteer a definition of marriage.
Just as I know that there are two Hagens, Walter and Copen,
I know that marriage is a legal and religious alliance entered into by a
man who can’t sleep with the window shut and a woman who can’t sleep with the window open.
Moreover, just as I am unsure of the difference between flora and fauna and flotsam and jetsam,
I am quite sure that marriage is the alliance of two people one of whom never remembers birthdays and the other never forgetsam,
And he refuses to believe there is a leak in the water pipe or the gas pipe and she is convinced she is about to asphyxiate or drown,
And she says Quick get up and get my hairbrushes off the windowsill, it’s raining in, and he replies Oh they’re all right, it’s only raining straight down.
That is why marriage is so much more interesting than divorce,
Because it’s the only known example of the happy meeting of the immovable object and the irresistible force.
So I hope husbands and wives will continue to debate and combat over everything debatable and combatable,
Because I believe a little incompatibility is the spice of life, particulary if he has income and she is pattable.”

• Note: Walter Hagen was golf’s first superstar during the 1920’s and 30’s. Copen Hagen? The capital of Denmark.

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Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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The Bridge Across Forever ~ Richard Bach ~

This is an excerpt from The Bridge Across Forever, by Richard Bach. Katie and Andrew used it as a reading during their ceremony this afternoon. A beautiful reading at a very beautiful wedding.

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.”

Enjoy,
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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“I don’t pretend to know what love is… – Author Unknown

As I was researching the origins of a poem read this evening at a Life Memory Celebration, I came across this wonderful gem:

“I don’t pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you.”

 

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Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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Immortal Beloved

In July of 1812, the composer Ludwig Van Beethoven wrote a letter to an unidentified lover. The letter is brimming with his passion and desire for the two of them to be together. His heart overflows with love and longing for this, his Immortal Beloved. In the letter, he shares with her the broad spectrum of everyday challenges that are keeping them apart: distance, the challenges of travel, bad roads, poor accommodations, and work, even the schedule of the mail-coach. We all too easily sense his profound loss and sadness by his being apart from her.

Last Friday, Sarah and Stephen choose to use a portion of this letter to the Immortal Beloved as one of the readings during their wedding ceremony. What follows is a redacted selection from the original ten page letter.

An excerpt from a letter by Ludwig Van Beethoven to his Immortal Beloved: 

My angel, my everything, my very self, I write only a few words today, using your very pencil.

Can our love exist but by sacrifices, by not demanding everything? Can you change it, that you are not completely mine, that I am not completely yours?

Our love demands everything and completely with good reason, that is how it is for me with you, and for you with me. However, we forget all too easily, that I must live for myself and for you as well, for if we were wholly united, you would not feel this as painfully.

I cannot convey to you my observations, which I made during these few days about my life. If our hearts were always close together, I would have no such thoughts. My heart is full with so much to tell you. Oh, there are moments when I feel that language is nothing at all. Cheer up, remain my faithful only darling, my everything as I am for you. The rest is up to The Gods, for what must be for us and for what is in store for us.

Wherever I am, you are with me. As I talk to myself, I talk to you. Arrange it that I can live with you, and what a life we will have. As it is, I am sick without you.

I can only live either wholly with you or not at all. Yes, I have resolved to stray about in the distance, until I can fly into your arms, and send my soul embraced by you into the realm of the Spirits

Angel, I have just heard that the mail-coach leaves every day and thus I must finish so that you may receive this letter immediately. Be patient, only through quiet contemplation of our existence can we achieve our purpose to live together. Be calm, for only by calmly considering our lives can we achieve our purpose of living together.

While still in bed, my thoughts go out to you, my Immortal Beloved. Be calm. Love me today, and yesterday. What tearful longings for you, you my life, my all. Oh continue to love me. Never misjudge the most faithful heart of your beloved. Ever thine. Ever mine. Ever ours. Ludwig.

 

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Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

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“Gift From the Sea”
 by Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Summer is quickly sailing by, and even though near the end of August, there is plenty of time to hold hands walking the beach, hike the mountains, visit wonderful galleries and take in the sun. We are immensely grateful for having experienced so much this summer: beautiful weddings, wonderful couples, an abundant garden, lovely family visits, great gallery openings and fantastic weather. So we would be remiss if we failed to include one of our all time favorite summer reading, good anytime of year, a part of Anne Morrow Lindbergh’s,“Gift From the Sea”
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Charlie grew up with having many of his summers at the beach and he remembers this book always being around, it is truly an old friend and sanctuary. Please enjoy this piece whether you are on the beach, the back porch, on the side of a mountain, in the park or on the fire escape.

“When you love someone, you do not love then all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity – in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern. The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, with in their limits – islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.”

So beautiful,

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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Oscar Wilde and Billy Joel

On Saturday, Kathleen and George celebrated their wedding. They used two pieces for readings that might not ordinarily be associated with a wedding ceremony, however, as unusual as the reading are, they warmly captured the love, lives, spirit, energy, passion and lifestyle these two beautiful and enthusiastic lovers share. To hear the words of the Billy Joel song is to hear the story of their work and lives with airports and travel, messages, phone calls and emails and then the special time together.

They used this portion of the Billy Joel song: “You’re My Home”

When you touch my weary head
And you tell me everything will be all right
You say, “Use my body for your bed
And my love will keep you warm throughout the night”
Well I’ll never be a stranger and I’ll never be alone
Whenever we’re together, that’s my home

Home can be the Pennsylvania Turnpike
Indiana’s early morning dew
High up in the hills of California
Home is just another word for you

This wonderful Oscar Wilde quote easily speaks for itself:

“Those who find ugly meanings in beautiful things are corrupt without being charming. This is a fault. Those who find beautiful meanings in beautiful things are the cultivated. For these there is hope. They are the elect to whom beautiful things mean only Beauty. There is no such thing as a moral or an immoral book. Books are well written, or badly written. That is all.”
From: The Picture of Dorian Gray

 

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Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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BLESSING FOR A MARRIAGE- Freeman

BLESSING FOR A MARRIAGE, by James Dillet Freeman is one of the readings Katie and Andrew selected for their wedding in late September.

May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding.
May you always need one another – not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete; the valley does not make the mountain less, but more; and the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you.
May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another.
May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, “I love you!” and take no notice of small faults.
If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back.
May you enter into the mystery which is the awareness of one another’s presence – no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.
May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.

Enjoy,
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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