Instructions for Life in the New Millennium

David and Kristen found this beautiful teaching essay by his Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama for their wedding ceremony~~
~~Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
And that a loving atmosphere in your home
is the foundation for your life.
Be gentle with the earth,
be gentle with one another.
When disagreements come
remember always to protect the spirit of your union.
When you realize you’ve made a mistake,
take immediate steps to correct it.
Remember that the best relationship is one
in which your love for each other
exceeds your need for each other.
So love yourselves, love one another,
love all that is your life together
and all else will follow.

 

Why no images on our blog?  Wedding images come and go with fashion and with the season, so many and so varied. We feel it is the words you share with each other, during your wedding ceremony, that are some of the most significant and intimate words you will ever share, in your life,  and, like gems, are unique and personal.

From “First Poems,” Rainer Maria Rilke

I have always enjoyed Rilke. This selection is especially touching

Understand, I’ll slip quietly
Away from the noisy crowd
When I see the pale
Stars rising, blooming over the oaks.
I’ll pursue solitary pathways
Through the pale twilit meadows,
With only this one dream:
You come too.


Portrait of a Lady- by Henry James

Good Morning couples in love, this small essay from Henry James speaks so dearly of a heart being transformed by love in a relationship. What more need be said on this wonderful morning.

“It has made me better loving you… it has made me wiser, and easier, and – I won’t pretend to deny – brighter and nicer and even stronger. I used to want a great many things before, and to be angry that I didn’t have them. Theoretically I was satisfied, as I once told you. I flattered myself I had limited my wants. But I was subject to irritation; I used to have morbid, sterile, hateful fits of hunger, of desire. Now I really am satisfied, because I can’t think of anything better.”

We hope you have enjoyed your visit and this has been helpful.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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Why no images on our blog?  Wedding images come and go with fashion and with the season, so many and so varied. We feel it is the words you share with each other, during your wedding ceremony, that are some of the most significant and intimate words you will ever share and, like gems, are unique and personal.

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Marriage Prayer of Saint Francis

This modification of the Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi was the reading used in Paul and Samatha’s wedding last week. Both in recovery from substance abuse, the couple took the Prayer of Saint Francis and personalized it for the celebration of their commitment. The Prayer  has been lovingly adopted by the members of the 12 Step Community  and is featured in the 11th Step.

In our marriage relationships, make us instruments of peace.
Where there is pain and hardship, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, trust and confidence;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
Where there is sadness, joy.

Let us each be mindful that we may not so much seek:
To be consoled, as to console;
To be understood, as to understand;
To be loved, as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
And it is in dying to ourself and our selfishness that we are born in love.

We hope you have enjoyed your visit and this has been helpful.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony Script Writers, Consultants
Please like us, share and visit our other sites to help prepare for your big day.
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Why no images on our blog?  Wedding images come and go with fashion and with the season, so many and so varied. We feel it is the words you share with each other, during your wedding ceremony, that are some of the most significant and intimate words you will ever share and, like gems, are unique and personal.

 

How Do I Love Thee? (Sonnet 43)

As I look over the many wonderful readings and thoughts on our blog, I see somehow we have not included this classic. Each time I read this piece or hear it used during the celebration of a wedding, I deeply feel the intimacy of each line, and the connection  warmth, and passion, between two lovers. Elizabeth Barrett Browning (1806-1861) has made the answer to this simple, yet so profoundly moving question a classic.  However, have you ever written out the answer to THE question yourself? Here is a suggestion for a warm and intimate date night with your partner: write out the answer to the question: “How Do I Love Thee?”  I am sure you will joyfully celebrate the answer seeing the beautiful depth and intimacy you share. Enjoy the celebration of your love.

How Do I Love Thee? (Sonnet 43)

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of being and ideal grace.
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for right.
I love thee purely, as they turn from praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints. I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life; and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

 

We hope you have enjoyed your visit to our blog.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony Writers and Consultants
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We are extremely pleased to have Caitlin Nash, MPH, RD, LDN join us to help prepare you and your body for the big day.Cait is a Personal Trainer, Registered Dietician & Beachboy Coach.
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Why no images on our blog? We feel the words you share with each other during your wedding ceremony are some of the most important words you will ever share with each other.

From “The Gift from the Sea” by Anne Morrow Lindbergh

From “The Gift from the Sea” by Anne Morrow Lindbergh

When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist the terror of its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on community; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity — in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern. The only real security in not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits — islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.’

I have not posted on our blog for a while. Having fallen into the rut of the complacency of the holiday season and now emerging, as if from behind the curtain of January, with a little better acquaintance to a new computer, it is time to share the wonderful reading and ceremony parts  we have been all along collecting.  As we approach February, the month of Love, and the month where couples either get engaged for marriage or begin to seriously work on their wedding plans, we present some ideas for your love and reflection.

 

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Enjoy,
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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Why no images in this blog? We feel the words you share with each other during your wedding ceremony are some of the most important words you will ever share with each other.

A Marriage Blessing

A Blessing For A Marriage, by James Dillet Freeman

May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding.
May you always need one another — not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete. The valley does not make the mountain less, but more. And the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you.
May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another.
May you succeed in all-important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, “I love you!” and take no notice of small faults. If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back.
May you enter into the mystery that is the awareness of one another’s presence — no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.
May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another

 

Enjoy,
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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