A Marriage Blessing

A Blessing For A Marriage, by James Dillet Freeman

May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding.
May you always need one another — not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete. The valley does not make the mountain less, but more. And the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you.
May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another.
May you succeed in all-important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, “I love you!” and take no notice of small faults. If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back.
May you enter into the mystery that is the awareness of one another’s presence — no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.
May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another

 

Enjoy,
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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I Do, I Will, I Have ~or~ How wise I am to have instructed the butler – Ogden Nash

This poem was read yesterday at the celebration of the marriage of Jon and Morgan. Both were a little anxious about the ceremony, but there is no doubt about their connectedness and love.

I Do, I Will, I Have- Ogden Nash
“How wise I am to have instructed the butler to instruct the first footman to instruct the second footman to instruct the doorman to order my carriage;
I am about to volunteer a definition of marriage.
Just as I know that there are two Hagens, Walter and Copen,
I know that marriage is a legal and religious alliance entered into by a
man who can’t sleep with the window shut and a woman who can’t sleep with the window open.
Moreover, just as I am unsure of the difference between flora and fauna and flotsam and jetsam,
I am quite sure that marriage is the alliance of two people one of whom never remembers birthdays and the other never forgetsam,
And he refuses to believe there is a leak in the water pipe or the gas pipe and she is convinced she is about to asphyxiate or drown,
And she says Quick get up and get my hairbrushes off the windowsill, it’s raining in, and he replies Oh they’re all right, it’s only raining straight down.
That is why marriage is so much more interesting than divorce,
Because it’s the only known example of the happy meeting of the immovable object and the irresistible force.
So I hope husbands and wives will continue to debate and combat over everything debatable and combatable,
Because I believe a little incompatibility is the spice of life, particulary if he has income and she is pattable.”

• Note: Walter Hagen was golf’s first superstar during the 1920’s and 30’s. Copen Hagen? The capital of Denmark.

Enjoy,
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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Water Into Wine

We had a wonderful small and intimate wedding celebration this afternoon. (and yes, some weddings are celebrated in the middle of the week). During the ceremony, the couple shared glasses of wine with each other and the following prayer/thought/wish/ desire was shared for them:

“As Jesus began his public ministry at the wedding celebration at Cana transforming water into wine,
 may the two of you continue to transform the water of your everyday into the wine of new life.

May your love transform your vision of the ordinary to see the miracles abounding everywhere.

And, may you grow old knowing that the best wine is saved until last.”

Be a Blessing.

Enjoy,

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

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Oscar Wilde and Billy Joel

On Saturday, Kathleen and George celebrated their wedding. They used two pieces for readings that might not ordinarily be associated with a wedding ceremony, however, as unusual as the reading are, they warmly captured the love, lives, spirit, energy, passion and lifestyle these two beautiful and enthusiastic lovers share. To hear the words of the Billy Joel song is to hear the story of their work and lives with airports and travel, messages, phone calls and emails and then the special time together.

They used this portion of the Billy Joel song: “You’re My Home”

When you touch my weary head
And you tell me everything will be all right
You say, “Use my body for your bed
And my love will keep you warm throughout the night”
Well I’ll never be a stranger and I’ll never be alone
Whenever we’re together, that’s my home

Home can be the Pennsylvania Turnpike
Indiana’s early morning dew
High up in the hills of California
Home is just another word for you

This wonderful Oscar Wilde quote easily speaks for itself:

“Those who find ugly meanings in beautiful things are corrupt without being charming. This is a fault. Those who find beautiful meanings in beautiful things are the cultivated. For these there is hope. They are the elect to whom beautiful things mean only Beauty. There is no such thing as a moral or an immoral book. Books are well written, or badly written. That is all.”
From: The Picture of Dorian Gray

 

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Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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Xhosa

Several years ago we came across this wonderful line:
“I am because WE are.”

We don’t know where the line came from, but like a lot of the material surrounding and articulating love and wedding ceremonies, they exist in what we feel are the collective spheres of our universe. Anyway.

We loved the sound and feel of the line but it lacked body and a certain “framing”. We discussed the line and how we feel it tells a part of the story of a part our lives and love. Cheryl wrote this poet to go with the line.

There was a time when I would seek to know myself.
I called myself by many words.
I dressed myself in many robes.
I stood beneath a thousand skies.
And then YOU,
You were before me on the road.
You spoke new words and wore new robes.
The skies were filled with stars.
It was only then that I began to know
what I know about myself.
I am because WE are.
Rev. Cheryl Cavalconte, MA

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Goodridge v. Massachusetts Dept. of Public Health

Marriage is a vital social institution. The exclusive commitment of two individuals to each other nurtures love and mutual support; it brings stability to our society.

Marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and a highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family. “It is an association that promotes a way of life, not causes; a harmony in living, not political faiths; a bilateral loyalty, not commercial or social projects.” Because it fulfils yearnings for security, safe haven and connection that express our common humanity, marriage is an esteemed institution and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition.

This reading was given to us by a couple whom we married. The beautiful essay is a redaction of many pages of the court decision.

Goodridge v. Dept. of Public Health, 798 N.E.2d 941 (Mass. 2003), was a landmark state appellate court case dealing with same-sex marriage in Massachusetts. The November 18, 2003, decision was the first by a U.S. state’s highest court to find that same-sex couples had the right to marry. The first legal same-sex marriage occured in Massachusetts in July 2004.

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“Love Is A Temporary Madness

“Love is a temporary madness; it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision.
You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.
Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion.
That is just being ‘in love,’ which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both art and a fortunate accident.
Your roots grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty petals have fallen from your branches, you will find that you are one tree and not two.
From Corelli’s Mandolin

This essay is from the book. The couple who first shared this reading with us, and who subsequently used it in their ceremony, met in a creative writing class. Every aspect of their ceremony was about words, writing, language and the images created by well chosen and woven words.

Enjoy
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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