How Do I Love Thee? (Sonnet 43)

As I look over the many wonderful readings and thoughts on our blog, I see somehow we have not included this classic. Each time I read this piece or hear it used during the celebration of a wedding, I deeply feel the intimacy of each line, and the connection  warmth, and passion, between two lovers. Elizabeth Barrett Browning (1806-1861) has made the answer to this simple, yet so profoundly moving question a classic.  However, have you ever written out the answer to THE question yourself? Here is a suggestion for a warm and intimate date night with your partner: write out the answer to the question: “How Do I Love Thee?”  I am sure you will joyfully celebrate the answer seeing the beautiful depth and intimacy you share. Enjoy the celebration of your love.

How Do I Love Thee? (Sonnet 43)

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of being and ideal grace.
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for right.
I love thee purely, as they turn from praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints. I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life; and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

 

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Two Irish Wedding Blessings

Needless to say, there are many versions of many wedding blessings and many versions of many Irish Wedding Blessings. The first blessing shared here Matt and Samantha used during their October celebration, it has elements familiar and new to the ear. The second blessing we have included contains familiar verses. Sometimes, we have noted the readers of this blessing place the sequences of the verses differently.

May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back,
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
The rains fall softly upon your fields.

May the light of friendship
Guide your paths together.
May the laughter of children
Grace the halls of your home.

May the joy of living for one another
Trip a smile from your lips,
A twinkle from your eye
And, today, may the spirit of love
Find a dwelling place in your hearts.

THEN, THERE IS THIS FAMILIAR VERSION

May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
The rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of his hand.

May God be with you and bless you;
May you see your children’s children.
May you be poor in misfortune,
Rich in blessings,
May you know nothing but happiness
From this day forward.

May the road rise to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the warm rays of sun fall upon your home
And may the hand of a friend always be near.

May green be the grass you walk on,
May blue be the skies above you,
May pure be the joys that surround you,
May true be the hearts that love you.

 

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Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

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My Love Has Made Me Selfish- John Keats

This is an extraordinary poem by John Keats to Fanny Brawne written about 1819-1820.

My love has made me selfish.
I cannot exist without you.
I am forgetful of everything but seeing you again.
My Life seems to stop there,
I see no further.
You have absorbed me.
I have a sensation at the present moment as though I were dissolving.
I should be exquisitely miserable without the hope of soon seeing you.
I have been astonished that men could die martyrs for religion,
I have shudder’d at it,
I shudder no more.
I could be martyred for my religion,
Love is my religion,
I could die for that.
I could die for you.
My creed is love and you are it only tenet.
You have ravished me away by a Power I cannot resist.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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From Corelli’s Mandolin

The following paragraph, from Corelli’s Mandolin, is extremely popular as a reading during many of our wedding ceremonies.

Corelli’s Mandolin, is a novel written in  1994,by the British writer Louis de Bernieres. The novel is set on the Greek island of Cephalonia during the Italian and German occupation of World War II. The author, writes in the words Captain Corelli, the main character,  the following beautiful essay about love.  We love the reading and feel the reading provides us with a wonderful image of love, growth, journey, being in love and relationship. May everyone know this experience of love at least once in their lives.

“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part, because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just being “in love” which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love, have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two. ”

 

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The Secret Garden – Frances Hodgson Burnett

The Secret Garden is a magical story of life, mystery, healing, growth, transformation and love. The story is a beautiful metaphor for so many aspects of our lives and hearts as both individuals and as a couple. Frances Hodgson Burnett shares with us an intimate glimpse of forever and how it speaks to the heart of lovers.

“One of the strange things about living in the world is that it is only now and then one is quite sure one is going
to live forever and ever and ever.

One knows it sometimes when one gets up at the tender solemn dawn-time and goes out and stands alone and throws one’s head far back and looks up and up and watches the pale sky slowly changing and flushing and marvelous unknown things happening until the East almost makes one cry out and one’s heart stands still at the strange unchanging majesty of the rising of the sun—which has been happening every morning for thousands and thousands of years.

One knows it then for a moment or so.

And one knows it sometimes when
one stands by oneself in a wood at sunset and the mysterious deep gold stillness slanting through and under the branches seems to be saying slowly again and again
something one cannot quite hear, however much one tries.

Then sometimes
the immense quiet of the dark blue at night with millions of stars waiting and watching makes one sure;
and sometimes a sound of far-off music makes it true;
and sometimes
a look in someone’s eye.”

 

 

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From Gifts from the Sea

A great book for reflection about relationships is Anne Morrow Lindbergh’s “Gift from the Sea”. This essay taken from the book, was a reading at Jennifer and Matt’s wedding in September.

“When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity – in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.

The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits – islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.”

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A Marriage Blessing

A Blessing For A Marriage, by James Dillet Freeman

May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding.
May you always need one another — not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete. The valley does not make the mountain less, but more. And the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you.
May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another.
May you succeed in all-important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, “I love you!” and take no notice of small faults. If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back.
May you enter into the mystery that is the awareness of one another’s presence — no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.
May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another

 

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From Love Letters of Nathaniel Hawthorne, Vol 1

Yesterday, in near hurricane conditions, Matt and Kate stood in the midst of an autumn garden and celebrated their love and exchanged their vows.

On October 4, 1840, 175 years ago today, Nathaniel Hawthorne wrote Sophia Peabody, his betrothed a letter. A  portion of that letter was used by Matt and Kate as the first reading of their ceremony.

Kate and Matt called this reading, for them, Epigraph. An Epigraph is: 1) an inscription on a building, statue or coin. 2) A short quote or saying at the beginning of a book or chapter, intended to suggest its theme. And, what a wonderfully worded theme it is.

From Love Letters of Nathaniel Hawthorne, Vol 1

4 October 1840

I used to think that I could imagine all passions, all feelings, all states of the heart and mind; but how little did I know what it is to be mingled with another’s being! Thou only hast taught me that I have a heart– thou only hast thrown a light deep downward, and upward, into my soul. Thou only hast revealed me to myself; for without thy aid, my best knowledge of myself would have been merely to know my own shadow– to watch it flickering on the wall, and mistake its fantasies for my own real actions.
Indeed, we are but shadows– we are not endowed with real life, and all that seems most real about us is but the thinnest substance of a dream– till the heart is touched. That touch creates us– then we begin to be– thereby we are beings of reality, and inheritors of eternity. Now, dearest, dost thou comprehend what thou hast done for me? And is it not a somewhat fearful thought, that a few slight circumstances might have prevented us from meeting?

 

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The Bridge Across Forever ~ Richard Bach ~

This is an excerpt from The Bridge Across Forever, by Richard Bach. Katie and Andrew used it as a reading during their ceremony this afternoon. A beautiful reading at a very beautiful wedding.

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.”

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Two Step, by Dave Matthews and 9/11

The memory of this date and the lyrics of the song Two Step go hand in hand for us with a story that is worth telling. The lyrics were recently used as a reading at one of our weddings and immediately brought us back to the weekend following Tuesday, September 11, 2001.  That weekend, like most weekends in September, were full of weddings and celebrations,  however the grief and terror that shook our nation that week changed the lives, plans and memories of our nation and of many bridal couples. Each wedding we celebrated that weekend struggled with the choice of “how can we celebrate with so much national sadness?” All flights were grounded and guests could not fly due to the restrictions. Guest lists were dramatically cut due to so many travel plans being uprooted.  Others made the personal choice to celebrate in the face of so much grief. However, though all this and through all these years, one weddings we celebrated on that somber weekend experienced the most profound and tragic loss and sacrifice of all. The bride was a buyer for TJMax. Since it was her wedding week, she did not get on that plane at Logan Airport to go to the conference in California with her co-workers, three of whom were the bridesmaids in her wedding party. Those three women were on the plane that hit The World Trade Center Towers.  We share the lyrics of the song “Two Step” in their memory.

“Two Step”
Dave Matthew

My love, I came to you with best intentions
You laid down and gave to me just what I’m seeking
Love, you drive me to distraction

My love do you believe that we
might last a thousand years
Or more if not for this,
Our flesh and blood,
It ties you and me right up
Tie me down

Celebrate we will
Because life is short but sweet for certain
We’re climbing two by two,
To be sure these days continue
Things we cannot change.

My love, you came to me like
wine comes to this mouth
Grown tired of water all the time
You quench my heart and, you quench my mind

Celebrate we will
because life is short but sweet for certain

 

In memory,

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

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