Love and Like

We received the following quote from a close friend who is a pillar of wisdom in our lives. She sends us quotes each day.  Since we are gardeners, this quote, sent today, is perfect. As an aside, we picked our first strawberry today, thank you earth and sun and rain and of course strawberry. We hope you enjoy the quote.

What is the difference between “I love you” and “I like you”?

This question is beautifully answered by Buddha: “When you like a flower you just pluck it. But when you love a flower, you water it daily”.  The one who understands this, understands life.

 

Thanks for stopping by, we hope you have enjoyed your visit.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony Script Writers, Consultants
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Why no images on our blog?  Wedding images come and go and there are so many and so varied. We feel it is the words you share with each other, during your wedding ceremony, that are some of the most significant and intimate words you will ever share and, like gems, are personally yours.

Rules for Fair Fighting

Our blog, Only The Ceremony, is about your wedding or other ceremony however, the topic for this blog is essential to all relationships and very much worth noting.

For about 10 years Charlie did pre-marriage, pre-Cana retreats with the Engaged Encounter Movement. EE focused on preparing for marriage and used material from the Worldwide Marriage Encounter Movement. What follows is a list from Marriage Encounter about the Rules for “Fighting Fair”

Please note, the term fight, used here by Marriage Encounter, never refers to any physical or verbal abuse.If you are experiencing physical, verbal or emotional violence or abuse, whether you are male or female, please seek help immediately, talk to someone, anyone: a counselor, parent, friend, sibling, the police, pastor, co-worker, anyone, immediately! The silence of Domestic Violence must be shattered.

What follows are Rules for “Fighting Fair”, we hope they can be a help, if needed.

~Avoid criticism. Remember that criticism and sarcasm wound people and destroy our capacity to belong to each other.
~Avoid name-calling and character assassination.
~Never fight when one or both of you are under the influence of alcohol or drugs.
~It is a waste of time placing blame. Since you can’t un-spill the milk, work at moving forward.
~Avoid using absolutes, such as, “you always” or “you never” or “every time.” They are not true.
~Finish the fight. Even if there are tears, be sensitive, but do not walk away. Continue the fight for your relationship.
~Do not bring in third parties. A parent, a friend, a person at work has no part in your confrontation. The real problem is often a miscommunication.
~Stay physically close to each other. An affectionate touch helps each to know that there is nothing that cannot be worked out in love.
~The issue under discussion is never as important as the two of you are. Being right is not as important as being in relationship.
~Fight for clarification, not to win. If I “win” a fight then I’m sleeping with a loser.

We hope this is helpful.
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

 

A Hopeful Quote

“When we come to the end of all the light there is and we face nothing but the darkness, we must trust that one of two things will happen: either we will have something firm to stand on, or we will be learn how to fly.”

We love this quote. I came across this quote as I was waiting for a job interview. I was not feeling at the top of my game and this quote gave me the the boost I needed. I have suggested it to so many people as a note of encouragment. We hope it is helpful to you. The research of who wrote the quote lead me to Edward Teller as the reported author.

Enjoy. Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
http://www.weddingministersri.com

Goodridge v. Massachusetts Dept. of Public Health

Marriage is a vital social institution. The exclusive commitment of two individuals to each other nurtures love and mutual support; it brings stability to our society.

Marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and a highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family. “It is an association that promotes a way of life, not causes; a harmony in living, not political faiths; a bilateral loyalty, not commercial or social projects.” Because it fulfils yearnings for security, safe haven and connection that express our common humanity, marriage is an esteemed institution and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition.

This reading was given to us by a couple whom we married. The beautiful essay is a redaction of many pages of the court decision.

Goodridge v. Dept. of Public Health, 798 N.E.2d 941 (Mass. 2003), was a landmark state appellate court case dealing with same-sex marriage in Massachusetts. The November 18, 2003, decision was the first by a U.S. state’s highest court to find that same-sex couples had the right to marry. The first legal same-sex marriage occured in Massachusetts in July 2004.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
http://www.weddingministersri.com

When Tragedy Befalls a Wedding.

This past weekend Lakeville Pavilion, a very popular wedding venue in Foxboro, MA, not far from Gillette Stadium home to the NE Patriots, where we have celebrated many weddings, had a massive fire during a wedding, destroying the venue, and subsequently the dreams and plans of many, many couples for this season and next. Our hearts go out to all who have been touched by this tragedy.

So, what would you do, if a tragedy like, death, fire, accident, sudden hospitalization, or something similar occurred to you or your family? As wedding officiants, we have unfortunately shared in a few of these tragic experiences and they are emotionally devastating to the couple and their families. Naturally, most people do not like to speak about these events, however we feel it worth noting.

First, and gratefully, the statics for these incidents occurring are very rare. Second, from our experience, these tragedies have been the opportunity for a couple and their families, to put their best foot forward. It did not matter whether the families were rich or poor, sophisticated and educated or not, across the board, the families stepped up to the plate and made the most sincere and genuine contribution to ease the pain, as best as they possibly could, during these sudden and tragic times. These are not the times to blame any one for anything. These are times for compassion and comfort, for understanding and sensitivity. These are the times for love to be the profound healing presence necessary in the life of the couple, the families and the guests. Each circumstance is different and is experienced differently by each person involved. We personally feel it is essential to come together and not to isolate; others want to be present and supportive to those hurt by these events. We believe people are good and want to be helpful. In these sad times, please, come together with family and close friends, some food, not too much wine, and have time together. Allow the pace to slow down to be together, to listen and consult with each other in order to make the best decisions given the circumstances. Please, forget past family resentments, they are useless. Breath. Let the silly, foolish and sometimes thoughtless things people say, in their feeble attempts to ease your pain, go. If you pray, invite your higher power into the situation. No one wishes a tragedy on anyone, least of all a bridal couple days or hours before or after their wedding, however, if unfortunately the moment arises, watch how the power, spirit and sensitivity of love, healing and compassion rises from the hearts of good men, women and children, who care, love and are instruments of peace.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

 

Almost

We have joyfully celebrated many weddings. We have witnessed many wonderful couples celebrate their love. With this blog we plan to share with you our experience of some of the wonderful celebrations we have seen. So far, we have identified over 200 topics that we have identified as being from only the ceremony. Our challenge to date has been the patience needed to set up a blog that will work easily for us and for you the reader, I think we are almost there.  In the next few days and weeks, as we move toward the holidays, more and more couples in love will become engaged. We are here to help you celebrate the heart of your wedding day: The Ceremony. Please stay tuned.