A Unique Workshop

For those of you who live close to Rhode Island, we are offering a unique workshop to help you:

Create Your Own Wedding Ceremony

Sunday, November 13, 2016, 2-5PM

The Reynolds School, Room 207, 235 High Street, Bristol, Rhode Island

Who knows more about your love than you? Now you and your betrothed can create a ceremony that perfectly expresses that love–complete with greetings, vows, declarations of intent, prayers and blessings.

Course includes 145-page manual with hundreds of time-honored passages that can be combined into the perfect expression of your feelings & thoughts. Instruction is non-denominational and includes follow-up support.

Lead by Cheryl & Charlie Cavalconte, wedding officiants and ritual designers, who have helped thousands of couples of all faiths plan their special ceremony.

Please, advance registration required; workshop limited to eight participants for personalized attention.

$125/Couple $85/Individual

To reserve your place for November 13th 

(Future Workshops:12/11.1/8.2/5.3/5,4/2 each 2-5pm)

ccavalconte@yahoo.com

Dog Poem 1

Katie and Brendan love dogs. They wanted to have their dogs as their witnesses, well that just could not happen. So they had this wonderful poem read to celebrate their love and their love of their four legged children.

How Falling in Love is Like Owning a Dog – Taylor Mali
First of all, it’s a big responsibility,
especially in a city like New York.
So think long and hard before deciding on love.
On the other hand, love gives you a sense of security:
when you’re walking down the street late at night
and you have a leash on love
ain’t no one going to mess with you.
Because crooks and muggers think love is unpredictable.
Who knows what love could do in its own defense?
On cold winter nights, love is warm.
It lies between you and lives and breathes
and makes funny noises.
Love wakes you up all hours of the night with its needs.
It needs to be fed so it will grow and stay healthy.
Love doesn’t like being left alone for long.
But come home and love is always happy to see you.
It may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,
but you can never be mad at love for long.
Is love good all the time? No! No!
Love can be bad. Bad, love, bad! Very bad love.
Love makes messes.
Love leaves you little surprises here and there.
Love needs lots of cleaning up after.
Sometimes you just want to get love fixed.
Sometimes you want to roll up a piece of newspaper
and swat love on the nose,
not so much to cause pain,
just to let love know Don’t you ever do that again!
Sometimes love just wants to go out for a nice long walk.
Because love loves exercise. It will run you around the block
and leave you panting, breathless. Pull you in different directions
at once, or wind itself around and around you
until you’re all wound up and you cannot move.
But love makes you meet people wherever you go.
People who have nothing in common but love
stop and talk to each other on the street.
Throw things away and love will bring them back,
again, and again, and again.
But most of all, love needs love, lots of it.
And in return, love loves you and never stops.

We hope you have enjoyed your visit and this has been helpful.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony Script Writers, Consultants
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Why no images on our blog?  Wedding images come and go with fashion and with the season, so many and so varied. We feel it is the words you share with each other, during your wedding ceremony, that are some of the most significant and intimate words you will ever share and, like gems, are unique and personal.

Vows

The following vows were share by a warm and wonderful couple over the weekend. We hope you enjoy them and your hearts, like ours, are also touched.

I John choose you Mary to be my wife/husband
You are the most beautiful person in the world to me.
Today, because I love you, I want to marry you.
I promise to be loving and present to you.
I promise to be your partner in all things,
Whatever trials and tribulations life may bring us.
I promise to be supportive of your wished, your desires,
and your aspirations.
I promise to be you partner in joy, your comfort in sickness,
your solace in sorrow, your strength in adversity and your constant companion in life.
I promise of love you forever.

 

 

Enjoy,
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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Why no images in this blog? We feel it is the words you share with each other during your wedding ceremony that are the most important part of your day.

Who is Walking Whom Down the Aisle?

There are lots of options about how to “get down the aisle” to the place of your wedding ceremony:
The classic one: Dad with bride
Then Dad and Mom with bride
Then sometimes Mom only with bride.
Then there are the variations with a male family or friend walking bride
Sometimes bride and her children
Sometimes bride and THEIR children
Sometimes bride and groom and their children
Sometimes the couple themselves walk down the aisle hand in hand:
Bride and groom
Bride and bride
Groom and groom

But grooms, whatever you do- DO NOT- repeat  DO NOT arrive by helicopter, or boat or parachute or ATV or tractor or any other means and have it be a surprise to your bride and her mother!

Most importantly, let the ritual of your wedding ceremony reflect the reality of your love and lives.

Reminder: while walking down the aisle and who does the honors  to walk with you is a tradition, it is also a tradition that has a bit of a dark side. The tradition, also called “giving away”, recalls a time of prearranged marriages and the subservient place of a woman to her birth family now being transferred to her marriage family. We have come along way, however, there is a constant need for mindful awareness of marriage being a lifegiving, mutual, collaborative, and equal partnership in love.

Enjoy
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
http://www.weddingministersri.com

The Apache Blessing- a blessing, a reading, a prayer

We have suggested to couples many times the possible inclusion of  The Apache Blessing in their wedding ceremony. We feel this wonderful piece conveys the depth, warmth and tenderness of two hearts, lives and bodies intimately tied together. The reading states in so many ways “you are one”. We have seen longer versions of the piece, however, we feel there might be challenges to the issue of authenticity with what sounds like an attempt to somehow improve the already perfect. We feel these redactions fall short of the original. Please enjoy this reading/ blessing/ prayer  during your wedding ceremony. We are unaware if there is a specifically named author; most research identifies the writer as anonymous.

 

The Apache Blessing

Now you will feel no rain,

For each of you will be shelter to the other.

Now you will feel no cold,

For each of you will be warmth to the other.

Now there is no more loneliness,

For each of you will be companion to the other.

Now you are two bodies,

But there is only one life before you.

Go now to your dwelling place,

To enter into the days of your togetherness.

And may your days be good and long upon the earth

 

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

 

We Have Been at Weddings

 

We have had, so far, an absolutely fabulously full and wonderful summer  filled with beautiful,warm, and exquisite weddings here in Southern New England . We have traveled some visiting family and friends, worked around the house and garden and of course our been busy at our daily jobs. The wedding ceremonies we have witnessed as officiants to a spectrum of great couples have been filled with sensitive, tender, loving, lush, warm and wonderful words conveying the abundant, rich, loving and tender feelings towards each other, their families and friends.
We have been absent from writing our  blog because of all this goodness, we know, this is a terrible excuse. So,for the second half of the summer, and for the next few months of the wedding season here in Rhode Island and Southern New England,  we are making a commitment to share aspects of these wonderful ceremonies we have witnessed. We hope you enjoy,and are touched by, the warm and sensitive words these loving couple have used to convey the fullness of their hearts and their commitment to each other. Please stay tuned.
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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A Ring Blessing

Here is a wonderful idea that we have used for guest involvement during the wedding ceremony:
A blessing/prayer over/good and loving thought and wish on the rings: at the beginning of the ceremony the officiant places the weddings rings of the couple in a small mesh bag so the rings can be seen. The mesh bag is for the just in case measure if they fall on the floor or on to the grass or in sand! The officiant invite the guests to pass the rings between each guest and for each guest to hold the rings for a few moments and offer a prayer, a loving thought, or blessing over them. The passing of the rings take place during the entire ceremony up until the time the rings are needed for the exchange of rings by the couple. I feel this is a wonderful way for the guests to share in the ceremony in a very intimate way.
Charles and Cheryl Cavalconte

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When Tragedy Befalls a Wedding.

This past weekend Lakeville Pavilion, a very popular wedding venue in Foxboro, MA, not far from Gillette Stadium home to the NE Patriots, where we have celebrated many weddings, had a massive fire during a wedding, destroying the venue, and subsequently the dreams and plans of many, many couples for this season and next. Our hearts go out to all who have been touched by this tragedy.

So, what would you do, if a tragedy like, death, fire, accident, sudden hospitalization, or something similar occurred to you or your family? As wedding officiants, we have unfortunately shared in a few of these tragic experiences and they are emotionally devastating to the couple and their families. Naturally, most people do not like to speak about these events, however we feel it worth noting.

First, and gratefully, the statics for these incidents occurring are very rare. Second, from our experience, these tragedies have been the opportunity for a couple and their families, to put their best foot forward. It did not matter whether the families were rich or poor, sophisticated and educated or not, across the board, the families stepped up to the plate and made the most sincere and genuine contribution to ease the pain, as best as they possibly could, during these sudden and tragic times. These are not the times to blame any one for anything. These are times for compassion and comfort, for understanding and sensitivity. These are the times for love to be the profound healing presence necessary in the life of the couple, the families and the guests. Each circumstance is different and is experienced differently by each person involved. We personally feel it is essential to come together and not to isolate; others want to be present and supportive to those hurt by these events. We believe people are good and want to be helpful. In these sad times, please, come together with family and close friends, some food, not too much wine, and have time together. Allow the pace to slow down to be together, to listen and consult with each other in order to make the best decisions given the circumstances. Please, forget past family resentments, they are useless. Breath. Let the silly, foolish and sometimes thoughtless things people say, in their feeble attempts to ease your pain, go. If you pray, invite your higher power into the situation. No one wishes a tragedy on anyone, least of all a bridal couple days or hours before or after their wedding, however, if unfortunately the moment arises, watch how the power, spirit and sensitivity of love, healing and compassion rises from the hearts of good men, women and children, who care, love and are instruments of peace.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

 

Who is walking you down the aisle?

This is easily one of the most hotly contested subjects at the wedding rehearsal and later after the ceremony. Almost every person who has thought about getting married somehow sees him or herself walking down the aisle one way or the other. But how?

Our blog for today will consider the more traditional wedding. More often than not the male groomsmen, with the groom (Partner A), enters the ceremony site somewhat unceremoniously from the side and stands at the top of the aisle at the ceremony site, waiting for the balance of the bridal party to arrive: grand parents, parents, brides maids and then the bride (Partner B) walks down the aisle. So now the question: who is going to walk the bride down the aisle? There are several options: the most traditional is with dad or a male member of the family, then there area few other options: mom and dad together, whether bride parent’s are divorced or not. The bride walking with her children, regardless of whether the children are older or younger. Then, there is the bride coming down the aisle by herself. Lastly, a sort of new trend: bride and groom walk down the aisle together fully representing what the celebration is about: The two of them getting married to each other.

We would further like to suggest the language of “giving the bride away” as really no longer a fitting or even an acceptable phrase since it comes from a time when marriages were arranged and women were consider chattel. We have had many conversations with professional women: doctors, nurses, lawyers, college professors, company presidents, and founders, teachers, etc.: women who have been very successful in the worlds of business, academics, arts and science and yet some how have been talked into feeling the need to be accompanied and walked down the aisle. We ask the question: What does walking down the aisle accompanied by another “giving you away” say or symbolically represent? Is this a message you want to present? We pose the question for conversation.

Yes, there are traditions, however, how do they speak to this generation?

Tulle and The Outside Wedding

We love tulle (for the guys: this is pronounced “tool”, so when you hear the word, don’t think work). This is a wonderful fabric and naturally the fabric most often thought about when couples or mothers and daughters start thinking weddings, dresses, veils,  ceremonies and decorating. Tulle has many wonderful uses. Additionally, the cost of tulle is very reasonable. Wrap ordinary chairs with tulle and you immediately have a special environment. Drape it from chair to chair. Hang it over the railings. It is a great material and easy to use. Some of the most beautiful dresses we have seen are layered with tulle. However, we raise this consideration: some environments are more tulle friendly than others. A wedding ceremony and reception inside, is usually tulle friendly.  If, however you are having your wedding ceremony and reception in a garden or mostly outside you may want to consider the season and the bug population. Remember tulle is essentially netting and a tulle dress might not be the best outside choice. We have seen a fabulous bridal dress of tulle at a magnificent garden wedding catch and trap gnats and flies much to the consternation of the bride. In most cases, some bug repellent will take care of this issue. So as with so many things about your ceremony, consider the conditions of the outside environment.

Charlie and Cheryl

http://www.weddingministersri.com