Blowing Bubbles

We love bubbles. Everyone loves bubbles. We think blowing bubbles brings out the kid in us all and it is a great way to get all your wedding guests engaged and actively participating in the joy of your ceremony. When a couple wants to use bubbles, we get some of the kids (of all ages) involved by having them go up and down the aisle distributing the bottles of bubbles to the guests if the guests have not already picked up their bubble bottle upon arrival. Sometimes there are bubble machines, which are great fun. Couples can either purchase or rent the bubble machines or sometimes the DJ or lighting designer might have a bubble machines for rent.

Regardless of whether the bubbles come from a bubble bottle “the old fashion way” or from a bubble making machine, when the humidity is right, with the right amount of breeze, and with plenty of bubbles being created by your guests, some of the very best photo images of your wedding ceremony celebration will be taken as you walk out arm in arm (or holding hands,) totally embraced by bubbles, as if your were in the bottom of a champagne glass! A totally magical experience!

Have a wonderful and love filled day

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

www.weddingministersri.com

A Ring Blessing

Here is a wonderful idea that we have used for guest involvement during the wedding ceremony:
A blessing/prayer over/good and loving thought and wish on the rings: at the beginning of the ceremony the officiant places the weddings rings of the couple in a small mesh bag so the rings can be seen. The mesh bag is for the just in case measure if they fall on the floor or on to the grass or in sand! The officiant invite the guests to pass the rings between each guest and for each guest to hold the rings for a few moments and offer a prayer, a loving thought, or blessing over them. The passing of the rings take place during the entire ceremony up until the time the rings are needed for the exchange of rings by the couple. I feel this is a wonderful way for the guests to share in the ceremony in a very intimate way.
Charles and Cheryl Cavalconte

weddingministersri.com

Tan Lines

It is pretty safe to say that by Mother’s Day, winter is behind us in the Northern Hemisphere and we are loving the sun. People are out and about soaking up the rays, which brings us to a very unique point of view and to a potentially major distraction to your wedding ceremony: TAN LINES

Now is the time in spring to address the nemesis of the summer and fall wedding bare shoulder look. As wedding officiants we are not kidding when we say: by the time we see the TAN LINES it is too late!

No matter how you take care of the situation to avoid TAN LINES, totally or by covering them up, whatever you do, please do it, take action, make a note and remember now is the time to address this aspect of your wedding planning. The lines fade but the photos remains.

SO, happy, wise, and prudent tanning, regardless of how you achieve the golden glow.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

 

Ceremony Seating

Last Saturday, May 3, our anniversary, and Derby Day, we celebrated a wonderful, warm, and intimate wedding at the Five Bridges Inn in Rehoboth, MA . The following sign was at the end of the aisle as guest walked to the ceremony area. This was our first encounter with this statement. We think it is a very lovely thought to set a wonderful feeling and tone for the day.

 Please choose a seat not a side

We are all a family

Once  the knot is tied.

Have a wonderful and love filled day.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

www.weddingministersri.com

Who is walking you down the aisle?

This is easily one of the most hotly contested subjects at the wedding rehearsal and later after the ceremony. Almost every person who has thought about getting married somehow sees him or herself walking down the aisle one way or the other. But how?

Our blog for today will consider the more traditional wedding. More often than not the male groomsmen, with the groom (Partner A), enters the ceremony site somewhat unceremoniously from the side and stands at the top of the aisle at the ceremony site, waiting for the balance of the bridal party to arrive: grand parents, parents, brides maids and then the bride (Partner B) walks down the aisle. So now the question: who is going to walk the bride down the aisle? There are several options: the most traditional is with dad or a male member of the family, then there area few other options: mom and dad together, whether bride parent’s are divorced or not. The bride walking with her children, regardless of whether the children are older or younger. Then, there is the bride coming down the aisle by herself. Lastly, a sort of new trend: bride and groom walk down the aisle together fully representing what the celebration is about: The two of them getting married to each other.

We would further like to suggest the language of “giving the bride away” as really no longer a fitting or even an acceptable phrase since it comes from a time when marriages were arranged and women were consider chattel. We have had many conversations with professional women: doctors, nurses, lawyers, college professors, company presidents, and founders, teachers, etc.: women who have been very successful in the worlds of business, academics, arts and science and yet some how have been talked into feeling the need to be accompanied and walked down the aisle. We ask the question: What does walking down the aisle accompanied by another “giving you away” say or symbolically represent? Is this a message you want to present? We pose the question for conversation.

Yes, there are traditions, however, how do they speak to this generation?

Tulle and The Outside Wedding

We love tulle (for the guys: this is pronounced “tool”, so when you hear the word, don’t think work). This is a wonderful fabric and naturally the fabric most often thought about when couples or mothers and daughters start thinking weddings, dresses, veils,  ceremonies and decorating. Tulle has many wonderful uses. Additionally, the cost of tulle is very reasonable. Wrap ordinary chairs with tulle and you immediately have a special environment. Drape it from chair to chair. Hang it over the railings. It is a great material and easy to use. Some of the most beautiful dresses we have seen are layered with tulle. However, we raise this consideration: some environments are more tulle friendly than others. A wedding ceremony and reception inside, is usually tulle friendly.  If, however you are having your wedding ceremony and reception in a garden or mostly outside you may want to consider the season and the bug population. Remember tulle is essentially netting and a tulle dress might not be the best outside choice. We have seen a fabulous bridal dress of tulle at a magnificent garden wedding catch and trap gnats and flies much to the consternation of the bride. In most cases, some bug repellent will take care of this issue. So as with so many things about your ceremony, consider the conditions of the outside environment.

Charlie and Cheryl

http://www.weddingministersri.com

The Purpose of Our Blog

The name of our blog  “Only The Ceremony” states  our focus. We will discuss a wide spectrum of topics that involve only the (wedding) ceremony. Our blog will focus on the many aspects of what is involved in creating a unique and personal wedding ceremony. We will explore ideas, rituals, prayers, readings, words, actions, colors, and flowers.  We will discuss the various roles of many the people who will help you create your wedding ceremony to make it truly yours.  All of the ideas we are sharing can add to how you are able to create a more uniqueness and personal  ceremony, all the while celebrating the tremendous love and joy you are sharing with each other, with your families and friends and with the world.

In our blog, we will be sharing with you our thoughts, feelings and experiences from what we have culled from the 1700 or so wedding we have celebrated. To date we have already identified over 180 topics to share, and with your input, that number will expand. We will be writing about planning and detailing, the wedding rehearsal, the actual celebration of the ceremony, to the final steps of the recessional that will take you down the aisle into your new life as a married coupled, plus a while lot more! We want you to have the best experience of your celebration, of your wedding, and of your love.

Charlie and Cheryl

http://www.weddingministersri.com