He’s Not Perfect by Bob Marley

Used by a couple who had been together for many year and finally decided to get married, Bob Marley’s reflection, He’s Not Perfect, spoke to the core of who they are in relationship.

He’s Not Perfect, by Bob Marley

He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.

Enjoy,
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
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Ceremony Music

Pages and pages can and already have been written about music for the wedding ceremony, but here are a few more thoughts at the beginning of the wedding season just in case you might want to rethink some options.

We want to state from the beginning of this blog that we are active supporters of the arts and of young artists. Additionally, we also want to state, very emphatically, music is an essential and foundational aspect of your wedding ceremony. So, with that said, regardless of your taste in music whether from classical church organ music to funky contemporary rap played by a DJ, please, please, and please, engage musicians or a DJ who is competent, adept, and skilled in his or her art form. These individuals need not be concert musicians, but please, seriously, reconsider the idea about having a niece, a nephew, a neighbor or a friend play the music at your wedding ceremony because it “would be nice for them to do it and gain the experience”. Please repeat after us and say: NO! NO! NO! It will not be nice, for that matter, it will be very painful if they are not skilled. Why you might ask are we being so emphatic? We have celebrated a lot of wedding ceremonies and we have listened to a lot of bad music and it is embarrassing, painful, dreadful, time-consuming, distracting and in some cases, simply ridiculous. We will say this over and over again: your guests will more than likely not remember any specific words said during your wedding ceremony, however, they will certainly remember the feelings they had from your wedding ceremony. They more than likely will not remember the words of your vows, but they will remember the tenderness and sensitivity you had for each other. Similarly, they will remember the music was awful if it was awful! Squeaky, loud, out of tune violins playing the processional music as you walk down the aisle is not music. Your wedding is not the place for the local music school students to gain experience. Your wedding is NOT an educational opportunity! So, for a few more dollars, please, do yourselves and everyone else a favor and hire competent musicians or a DJ who knows what they are doing and are skilled and proficient in the craft of their art form and medium.

A final note: some might be scratching heads about our placing instrumentalists and DJ’s side by side in relationship to music for your ceremony. Here is the deal from our perspective: DJ’s are “playing” electronics. Like all musicians timing, queuing, grace, ease, volume, appropriate choice, ability, discretion (as in, not being noticed or trying to be the center of attention) are essential elements in performance. Electronic music at a wedding ceremony is, trust me, more than “pushing” the button on the iPod at the right time. More will be said about music and your wedding ceremony at a later date, so stay “Tuned” – no kidding!

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

http://www.weddingministersri.com

Now is the Time to Start Planning

Now that the holidays are over, the Superbowl is won, and the red glow of Valentine’s Day is fading, and many are now  in the place to really “buckle down”to start the planning process for “the big day”

In our blog we are going to reflect upon our experiences as wedding officiants who have celebrated about 1700 weddings ceremonies: big and small, inside and outside, in churches, at clubs, at beaches, on boats and more, mostly in Rhode Island, Cape Cod, South Coast Massachusetts, Westchester County and Long Island, NY. I mention the locations since NYC, Metro NY/NJ and RI are some of the most expensive place in the United States to have a wedding as such we have celebrated a very broad spectrum of wedding ceremonies.

We hope our experiences will benefit you in planning your big day. There is no set order to the topics we will be sharing, about, it will be more or less what the muses dictate, so enjoy.

We ask you also to bear with us and our social media foibles since we continue to be on the learning curve. So please like, share, follow, tweet, etc. etc.etc. Thanks. We also look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Charlie and Cheryl

www.weddingministersri.com