The Place for Your Ceremony

After the “Yes” and all the sharing about your engagement, one of the first questions about your wedding will be, “Where are we going to have the celebration?” Here is an unorganized list of places where you might want to celebrate your love knotting: There are the different churches, temples, mosques, chapels, and synagogues. Then there is everything else: Museums of all types: art, history, natural history, arboretums, historic village museums. Atriums of unique buildings (office buildings, college buildings,  private homes, etc.)  Vineyards, gardens, parks, both large and small, New England Town Commons, gazebos, a mountain top, a desert oasis, rock jetties, cliffs. The campus of a private school or college and the chapel or “great hall” of such places, sailboats, state parks, ferries, trains, covered bridges. If that were not enough, how about historic mansions, lighthouses, aircraft hangers, docks and boat houses, public beaches and private beaches, or even the zoo. Penthouses and summer cottages and camps, your parent’s, or your neighbor or boss’ backyard, the observation deck of famous buildings or natural lookout places. Depending on membership and sponsorship, there are country clubs, yacht clubs, sports and hunting clubs (depending) on flavor and membership. And there are military posts and bases depending on sponsorship clearance and security issues. Believe it or not, we officiated a lovely small wedding in a small grove of trees in the middle of a historic cemetery with old stones both standing in the ground and leaning against the trees.

The list goes on and on limited only by your imagination, budget and the sometime practical concerns. How do people get there? Can grandma get there? How far to travel? What about the weather? Etc. but for now, dream! Happy Celebrating!

Charlie and Cheryl

Next Time: Rethinking the DIY wedding.

Why you need to have a wedding planner?

From our perch, looking down the aisle, in the moments before you change your life on one of the most important days of your life, and after celebrating about 1700 weddings, one of the best gifts a couple can give to themselves, as a wedding gift to each other, is a wedding planner, if not ofr the enitre process at least for their wedding day.

Now you might be asking yourself, why would a wedding officiant be recommending a wedding planner?

Here is an incomplete list of why there is a huge benefit to having a wedding planner either for the day of the wedding or during the entire process of planning your big day: a sense of order, calm, organization, knowhow, peace, serenity, the able to reduce stress, worry and anxiety, peace of mind, insightful, orderly, punctuality, a sense of perspective, timing, management, a manager and cheerleader, tissues, honesty, discretion, an objective third-party, observes details, details, details, comes with an emergency kit, emotionally stable, knows the vendors: the good, the bad, and the ugly; intuitive, artistic, caring, has know how and knows how to handle most crises, your wedding planner is not your  mom, your sister or your best friend but an objective third-party, who is able to keep her or in a few cases his head on tightly when everyone else might be losing theirs; wisdom, knowledge and most of all experience, experience, experience!

On the day of your wedding, the time immediately before the ceremony is probably  some of the most nerve-racking and emotionally charged moments of the entire day: from hairs, nails, makeup, getting dressed to photos and getting everyone to the ceremony site on time and all that occurs in between, those few minutes before you walk down and getting you to that point, are some of the most critical and emotionally filled moments of the day.

From our perspective having a wedding planner makes your day run so much more smoothly. Your wedding planner will save yourself tons of stress, worry, anxiety, and frustration and will be there to hold your hand and walk you through one of the most important days and some of most important moments of your entire life.

Charlie and Cheryl