Relationships and Anne Morrow Lindbergh’s Gift From the Sea

This soft, and delicate reflection of Anne Morrow Lindbergh is a beautiful image of relationship. As you deepen, nourish and grow your own particular relationship ask yourselves: are we JOINING
 or are we SEPARATING or ISOLATING? Life is all about relationships. All of life is about relationships. Life is all about coming together joining and growing our hearts, and our lives. Our joining together involves so much: sensitivity, communication, commitment, care, respect, listening, regard, esteem, awareness, desire, presence, love, safety, vulnerability, intimacy, trust,healing, truth. The events of separation and isolation touch into our dark side of secrets, fear, anger, lies, hurt, wounds, power, control,  Questions we feel valuable to keep before us while in our relationship are: Where am I? Where are we? How am I/we willing to grow to join with my partner? What needs nurturing, and watering? What needs to diminish and weeded out? Joining is an ever-growing dynamic. And while these questions are natural and appropriate for our primary relationship, they are also valid questions to ponder while considering my relationships with my family members, my friends, my work and my the various communities to which I belong. As our world experiences so much hurt and so many wounds, we feel these questions are extremely valid  to ponder for national and global relationships: How am I/we joining? How am I/we separating? How am I/we isolating? How am I/we called to grow together? How do we grow and heal together?

Here is Anne Morrow Lindbergh’s reading

“A good relationship has a pattern like a dance and is built on some of the same rules. Partners do not need to hold on tightly, because they move confidently in the same pattern, intricate but gay and swift and free, like a country dance of Mozart. To touch heavily would be to arrest the pattern and freeze the movement, to check the endlessly changing beauty of its unfolding. There is no place here for the possessive clutch, the clinging arm, the heavy hand; only the barest touch in passing. Now arm in arm, now face to face, now back to back – it does not matter which. Because they know they are partners moving to the same rhythm, creating a pattern together, and being invisibly nourished by it.”

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From “The Gift from the Sea” by Anne Morrow Lindbergh

From “The Gift from the Sea” by Anne Morrow Lindbergh

When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist the terror of its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on community; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity — in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern. The only real security in not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits — islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.’

I have not posted on our blog for a while. Having fallen into the rut of the complacency of the holiday season and now emerging, as if from behind the curtain of January, with a little better acquaintance to a new computer, it is time to share the wonderful reading and ceremony parts  we have been all along collecting.  As we approach February, the month of Love, and the month where couples either get engaged for marriage or begin to seriously work on their wedding plans, we present some ideas for your love and reflection.


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Why no images in this blog? We feel the words you share with each other during your wedding ceremony are some of the most important words you will ever share with each other.