Why have a wedding ceremony? Great question. Why?
Humans have been creating rituals and rites celebrating major life events since the beginning of time: birth, coupling, death, sickness. These certainly are the big events of a family, a tribe or a community; major miles stones in a family’s life.
Your wedding is one of those tremendous milestones not only in your life, but in the life of both your families and the life of your communities. The love you share and which brings the two of you together, has not only transformed your lives, but has also changed the lives and histories of your families and of your communities. We do not live in a vacuum!
And so why have a wedding ceremony? Because all humans, have this inherent need to celebrate the many aspects of life: love, joy, gifted-ness, gratitude, memory, health and especially the uniqueness of your relationship. Does the size of the ceremony matter? No. Does who attends matters? Maybe. Does your love need a ritual to set the two of you apart for each other for life? Most certainly!
We share our planet with about 7 billion other people, and for about 2.4 billion Christians, this week is the celebration of Christmas. And if all the joys and feelings of Christmas are not enough, there are thousands, if not millions, of couples worldwide who, in the next few days would have said those very special words, in hundreds of different languages, that will move them from friends and lovers to engaged.
Engaged, that most wonderful awkward place of nerves and sweaty palms and bended knee, (yes, a lot of people still do that) of asking, hoping, surrendering, of saying yes, of being received, and thus changing the course of the history of your life as an individual, your lives as a couple, the lives of your families and thus the history of the human race. The place of planning and hoping, the place where you, your love and your coupleness stand up and say to the world: here we are in love and we want to share our love with each other, and our togetherness with the world forever! What better gift is there than that?
May the joy of this holiday spill forth from your hearts and fill the world with love, joy and peace.