The Purpose of Our Blog

The name of our blog  “Only The Ceremony” states  our focus. We will discuss a wide spectrum of topics that involve only the (wedding) ceremony. Our blog will focus on the many aspects of what is involved in creating a unique and personal wedding ceremony. We will explore ideas, rituals, prayers, readings, words, actions, colors, and flowers.  We will discuss the various roles of many the people who will help you create your wedding ceremony to make it truly yours.  All of the ideas we are sharing can add to how you are able to create a more uniqueness and personal  ceremony, all the while celebrating the tremendous love and joy you are sharing with each other, with your families and friends and with the world.

In our blog, we will be sharing with you our thoughts, feelings and experiences from what we have culled from the 1700 or so wedding we have celebrated. To date we have already identified over 180 topics to share, and with your input, that number will expand. We will be writing about planning and detailing, the wedding rehearsal, the actual celebration of the ceremony, to the final steps of the recessional that will take you down the aisle into your new life as a married coupled, plus a while lot more! We want you to have the best experience of your celebration, of your wedding, and of your love.

Charlie and Cheryl

http://www.weddingministersri.com

Why Have A Wedding Ceremony?

Why have a wedding ceremony? Great question. Why?

Humans have been creating rituals and rites celebrating major life events since the beginning of time: birth, coupling, death, sickness. These certainly are the big events of a family, a tribe or a community; major miles stones in a family’s life.

Your wedding is one of those tremendous milestones not only in your life, but in the life of both your families and the life of your communities. The love you share and which brings the two of you together, has not only transformed your lives, but has also changed the lives and histories of your families and of your communities. We do not live in a vacuum!

And so why have a wedding ceremony? Because all humans, have this inherent need to celebrate the many aspects of life: love, joy, gifted-ness, gratitude, memory, health and especially the uniqueness of your relationship.  Does the size of the ceremony matter? No. Does who attends matters? Maybe. Does your love need a ritual to set the two of you apart for each other for life? Most certainly!

So, Celebrate!

 

Now is the Time to Start Planning

Now that the holidays are over, the Superbowl is won, and the red glow of Valentine’s Day is fading, and many are now  in the place to really “buckle down”to start the planning process for “the big day”

In our blog we are going to reflect upon our experiences as wedding officiants who have celebrated about 1700 weddings ceremonies: big and small, inside and outside, in churches, at clubs, at beaches, on boats and more, mostly in Rhode Island, Cape Cod, South Coast Massachusetts, Westchester County and Long Island, NY. I mention the locations since NYC, Metro NY/NJ and RI are some of the most expensive place in the United States to have a wedding as such we have celebrated a very broad spectrum of wedding ceremonies.

We hope our experiences will benefit you in planning your big day. There is no set order to the topics we will be sharing, about, it will be more or less what the muses dictate, so enjoy.

We ask you also to bear with us and our social media foibles since we continue to be on the learning curve. So please like, share, follow, tweet, etc. etc.etc. Thanks. We also look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Charlie and Cheryl

www.weddingministersri.com

30 Special Words of Love

“I promise to be true to you in good times and bad, in sickness and in health I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.”

If you are reading this you are either preparing for marriage, you are married, or working very closely with those who are preparing to walk down the aisle. These 30 special words, or a variation of them, are the promise of one heart to the other, the foundation of a contract to a relationship that will last a lifetime. These are the words that shine and display the love of one individual for and other.

 A few years ago, Cheryl wrote a meditative reading for one of our wedding ceremonies. The piece has evolved to become a favorite reading within the ceremony of many of our couples. This is what she wrote:  

 Marriage is the best “things” we do as human being. We fall in love. We commit our lives to each other. We share that love with the world. There is no other movement of the heart, idea in our minds, or action in our lives that is greater than sharing our love with another human being. Marriage is the fabric that brings together persons, creates families, defines villages, protects nations, reveres the aging, and strives for perfection. It spurs the soul to greater and deeper love. Marriage is the strength that overcomes adversity, holds together when the world is falling apart around it, endures when all else seems lost, and suffices when the need is the greatest. Marriage fills the lover with certainty, teaches patience, nurtures creativity, and demands vigilance against all that would want to destroy it.Marriage remains when all the light and frivolous feelings and desires of youth have faded into the years. Marriage, when tended by fidelity and understanding, sustains both the lovers and their love.    ~Cheryl Cavalconte~

Cheryl and I are happily and deliciously married.  We feel being in a committed married relationship is the best thing in the world that calls us to wholeness, and healing, that is supportive, caring, sensitive, warm, challenging, and stretching. A relationship where there is fun, laughs, serious conversation, genuine concern, safe, tender hugs, compassion, listening with the heart, and honesty, openness, and willingness to each hold each other close. I can continue to name all the wonderful aspects of marriage and love and yet not truly nor totally describe the love shared by you and by each individual couple since each relationship is totally unique. The music composer Peter Iiyich Tchaikovsky says “we do not speak enough about good marriages!” We totally agree with him. So here is to all of you who are in good healthy relationships and are on the threshold of marriage, in love with being in love and are willing to continue to grow each and every day.

 Charlie and Cheryl www.weddingministersri.com

Next Time our Blog topic will be:  Thoughts About Your Ceremony

 

 

Christmas

We share our planet with about 7 billion other people, and for about 2.4 billion Christians, this week is the celebration of  Christmas.  And if all the joys and feelings of Christmas are not enough, there are thousands, if not millions, of couples worldwide who, in the next few days would have said those very special words, in hundreds of different languages, that will move them from friends and lovers to engaged.
Engaged, that most  wonderful awkward place of nerves and sweaty palms and bended knee, (yes, a lot of people still do that) of asking, hoping, surrendering, of saying yes, of being received, and thus changing the course of the history of your life as an individual, your lives as a couple, the lives of your families and thus the history of the human race. The place of planning and hoping, the place where you, your love and your coupleness stand up and say to the world: here we are in love and we want to share our love with each other, and our togetherness with the world forever! What better gift is there than that?
May the joy of this holiday spill forth from your hearts and fill the world with love, joy and peace.