Relationships and Anne Morrow Lindbergh’s Gift From the Sea

This soft, and delicate reflection of Anne Morrow Lindbergh is a beautiful image of relationship. As you deepen, nourish and grow your own particular relationship ask yourselves: are we JOINING
 or are we SEPARATING or ISOLATING? Life is all about relationships. All of life is about relationships. Life is all about coming together joining and growing our hearts, and our lives. Our joining together involves so much: sensitivity, communication, commitment, care, respect, listening, regard, esteem, awareness, desire, presence, love, safety, vulnerability, intimacy, trust,healing, truth. The events of separation and isolation touch into our dark side of secrets, fear, anger, lies, hurt, wounds, power, control,  Questions we feel valuable to keep before us while in our relationship are: Where am I? Where are we? How am I/we willing to grow to join with my partner? What needs nurturing, and watering? What needs to diminish and weeded out? Joining is an ever-growing dynamic. And while these questions are natural and appropriate for our primary relationship, they are also valid questions to ponder while considering my relationships with my family members, my friends, my work and my the various communities to which I belong. As our world experiences so much hurt and so many wounds, we feel these questions are extremely valid  to ponder for national and global relationships: How am I/we joining? How am I/we separating? How am I/we isolating? How am I/we called to grow together? How do we grow and heal together?

Here is Anne Morrow Lindbergh’s reading

“A good relationship has a pattern like a dance and is built on some of the same rules. Partners do not need to hold on tightly, because they move confidently in the same pattern, intricate but gay and swift and free, like a country dance of Mozart. To touch heavily would be to arrest the pattern and freeze the movement, to check the endlessly changing beauty of its unfolding. There is no place here for the possessive clutch, the clinging arm, the heavy hand; only the barest touch in passing. Now arm in arm, now face to face, now back to back – it does not matter which. Because they know they are partners moving to the same rhythm, creating a pattern together, and being invisibly nourished by it.”

We hope this sharing has been helpful and you have enjoyed your visit.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony Script Writers, Consultants
Please like us, share and visit our other sites to help prepare for your big day.
Www.createyourownweddingceremony.com
Www.weddingministersri.com
We are extremely pleased to have Caitlin Nash, MPH, RD, LDN join us to help prepare you and your body for the big day. Cait is a Personal Trainer, Registered Dietician & Beachboy Coach.
Please visit her exciting websites. Let her help you become a healthier you:
Www.shakeology.com/caitRD
Www.teambeachbody.com/caitRD
Www.facebook.com/CaitNashRD

Why no images on our blog?  Wedding images come and go and there are so many and so varied. We feel it is the words you share with each other, during your wedding ceremony, that are some of the most significant and intimate words you will ever share and, like gems, are personally yours.

From Jane Eyre

We hope those of you in the north are having a great summer and in the south, a mild winter ah, what a world. This sharing, from Jane Eyre, is no other than wonderful! We are so grateful for having been able to hear this reading from Stephanie and Jim last weekend at their celebration of love. Went we first encountered this piece, it left us with a WOW!  We hope you enjoy this reading and your weekend.

 

I have for the first time found what I can truly love–I have found you. You are my sympathy–my better self–my good angel–I am bound to you with a strong attachment. I think you good, gifted, lovely: a fervent, a solemn passion is conceived in my heart; it leans to you, draws you to my centre and spring of life, wrap my existence about you–and, kindling in pure, powerful flame, fuses you and me in one.

~ Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

 

We hope you have enjoyed your visit and this has been helpful.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony Script Writers, Consultants
Please like us, share and visit our other sites to help prepare for your big day.
Www.createyourownweddingceremony.com
Www.weddingministersri.com
We are extremely pleased to have Caitlin Nash, MPH, RD, LDN join us to help prepare you and your body for the big day. Cait is a Personal Trainer, Registered Dietician & Beachboy Coach.
Please visit her exciting websites. Let her help you become a healthier you:
Www.shakeology.com/caitRD
Www.teambeachbody.com/caitRD
Www.facebook.com/CaitNashRD

Why no images on our blog?  Wedding images come and go and there are so many and so varied. We feel it is the words you share with each other, during your wedding ceremony, that are some of the most significant and intimate words you will ever share and, like gems, are personally yours.

from The Irrational Season by Madeleine L’Engle

This reading was used over the weekend at Samantha’s and Jordan’s wedding. The two of them choose this reading. They feel the ideas of togetherness and participation not possession are key elements in their relationship.

“But ultimately there comes a moment when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take. It is indeed a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new creature.

To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take.If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation. It takes a lifetime to learn another person. When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling, and which implies such risk that it is often rejected.”

 

We hope you have enjoyed your visit and this has been helpful.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony Script Writers, Consultants
Please like us, share and visit our other sites to help prepare for your big day.
Www.createyourownweddingceremony.com
Www.weddingministersri.com
We are extremely pleased to have Caitlin Nash, MPH, RD, LDN join us to help prepare you and your body for the big day. Cait is a Personal Trainer, Registered Dietician & Beachboy Coach.
Please visit her exciting websites. Let her help you become a healthier you:
Www.shakeology.com/caitRD
Www.teambeachbody.com/caitRD
Www.facebook.com/CaitNashRD

Why no images on our blog?  Wedding images come and go and there are so many and so varied. We feel it is the words you share with each other, during your wedding ceremony, that are some of the most significant and intimate words you will ever share and, like gems, are personally yours.

 

“Little Things Mean a Lot” by Kitty Kallen



Most of the poems and reading we share have been found by the couples we have married. Some of the poems we share are the classics known to all. Many of the other poems are small gentle snapshots into the love heartland and  captures the special unique glances of two particular lovers. Many of the feelings of two unique lovers are universal, having been shared at one time or the other by countless other lovers. This gem, “Little Things Mean a Lot” by Kitty Kallen, is one of those lovely snapshots into the depth of the shared universal ordinary  displaying the profound meaning of everyday love.

Send me a kiss from across the room
Say I look nice when I’m not
Touch my hair as you pass my chair
Little things mean a lot.

Give me your arm as we cross the street
Call me at six on the dot
A line a day when you’re far away
Little things mean a lot.

Don’t have to buy me diamonds or pearls
Champagne, sables, and such
I never cared much for diamonds and pearls
‘Cause honestly, honey, Little things mean a lot.

Give me a hand when I’ve lost the way
Give me your shoulder to cry on
Whether the day is bright or gray
Give me your heart to rely on.

Send me the warmth of a secret smile
To show me you haven’t forgot
For now and forever, that’s always and ever
Little things mean a lot.

 

We hope you have enjoyed your visit.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony Script Writers, Consultants
Please like us, share and visit our other sites to help prepare for your big day.
Www.createyourownweddingceremony.com
Www.weddingministersri.com
We are extremely pleased to have Caitlin Nash, MPH, RD, LDN join us to help prepare you and your body for the big day. Cait is a Personal Trainer, Registered Dietician & Beachboy Coach.
Please visit her exciting websites. Let her help you become a healthier you:
Www.shakeology.com/caitRD
Www.teambeachbody.com/caitRD
Www.facebook.com/CaitNashRD

Why no images on our blog?  Wedding images come and go and there are so many and so varied. We feel it is the words you share with each other, during your wedding ceremony, that are some of the most significant and intimate words you will ever share and, like gems, are personally yours.

“Why Marriage?” by Mari Nichols

This wonderful poem by Mari Nichols reads like a marriage vow. We feel the poem speaks wonderfully of the depth of the beauty of love in relationship and the tremendous freedom marriage can provide.

Because to the depths of me, I long to love one person,
With all my heart, my soul, my mind, my body…
Because I need a forever friend to trust with the intimacies of me.
Who won’t hold them against me,
Who loves me when I am unlikable,
Who see the small child in me, and
Who looks for the divine potential of me
Because I need to cuddle in the warmth of the night
With someone who thanks God for me,
With someone I feel blessed to hold…
Because marriage means opportunity
To grow in love, in friendship…
Because marriage is a discipline
To be added to a list of achievements…
Because marriages do not fail, people fail
When they enter into marriage
Expecting another to make them whole…
Because knowing this,
I promise myself to take full responsibility
For my spiritual, mental and physical wholeness.
I create me.
I take half of the responsibility for my marriage
Together, we create our marriage.
Because with this understanding
The possibilities are limitless.

 

We hope you have enjoyed your visit.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony Script Writers, Consultants
Please like us, share and visit our other sites to help prepare for your big day.
Www.createyourownweddingceremony.com
Www.weddingministersri.com
We are extremely pleased to have Caitlin Nash, MPH, RD, LDN join us to help prepare you and your body for the big day. Cait is a Personal Trainer, Registered Dietician & Beachboy Coach.
Please visit her exciting websites. Let her help you become a healthier you:
Www.shakeology.com/caitRD
Www.teambeachbody.com/caitRD
Www.facebook.com/CaitNashRD

Why no images on our blog?  Wedding images come and go and there are so many and so varied. We feel it is the words you share with each other, during your wedding ceremony, that are some of the most significant and intimate words you will ever share and, like gems, are personally yours.

From Ecclesiastes

This reading from The Book of Ecclesiastes, from the Jewish/Christian scriptures, we have found to be a very popular wedding reading  We first became familiar with this as a wedding reading at a cousin’s wedding back in the 1980’s.

Ecclesiastes, Chapter 4: 9-12

Two are better than one.
If the one falls, the other will help the fallen one.
But woe to the solitary person!
If that one should trip or fall, there is no other to help.
So also, if two sleep together, they keep each other warm.
How can one alone keep warm?
Where one alone may be overcome, two together can resist.

 

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony Writers and Consultants

We hope you have enjoyed your visit.
Please like us and share and visit our other sites to help prepare for your big day.
Www.createyourownweddingceremony.com
Www.weddingministersri.com
We are extremely pleased to have Caitlin Nash, MPH, RD, LDN join us to help prepare you and your body for the big day. Cait is a Personal Trainer, Registered Dietician & Beachboy Coach.
Please visit her exciting websites. Let her help you become a healthier you:
Www.shakeology.com/caitRD
Www.teambeachbody.com/caitRD
Www.facebook.com/CaitNashRD

Why no images on our blog? We feel the words you share with each other during your wedding ceremony are some of the most important words you will ever share with each other.

 

Marriage Prayer of Saint Francis

This modification of the Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi was the reading used in Paul and Samatha’s wedding last week. Both in recovery from substance abuse, the couple took the Prayer of Saint Francis and personalized it for the celebration of their commitment. The Prayer  has been lovingly adopted by the members of the 12 Step Community  and is featured in the 11th Step.

In our marriage relationships, make us instruments of peace.
Where there is pain and hardship, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, trust and confidence;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
Where there is sadness, joy.

Let us each be mindful that we may not so much seek:
To be consoled, as to console;
To be understood, as to understand;
To be loved, as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
And it is in dying to ourself and our selfishness that we are born in love.

We hope you have enjoyed your visit and this has been helpful.

Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony Script Writers, Consultants
Please like us, share and visit our other sites to help prepare for your big day.
Www.createyourownweddingceremony.com
Www.weddingministersri.com

Why no images on our blog?  Wedding images come and go with fashion and with the season, so many and so varied. We feel it is the words you share with each other, during your wedding ceremony, that are some of the most significant and intimate words you will ever share and, like gems, are unique and personal.